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ageha.
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ageha.
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May 30th, 2006 at 03:51pm
Iunno really.
I just think that people should be more cautious when they get married.
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May 30th, 2006 at 03:57pm
I'm split between this one.

My parents are divorced but they divorced when I was very young. The reason they divorced was because my dad was having an affair. Could you stand to spend the rest of your life with a man knowing that he was with another woman?
I know I couldn't.
And other situations where parents argue and the kids get involved and people get hurt physically and mentally. That's not right. Even if you get hurt afterwards it cant be as bad as if you're getting hurt by someone in the home.
I'm pretty much for it really.
assiralc talc
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May 30th, 2006 at 04:19pm
i think sometimes it can't be avoided, when two people are so ill-matched. i don't really agree with the opinion that many marriages fail these days because people give up at the first hurdle.

no child wants to brought up in a loveless home. and yet no child wants to be brought up in a broken home, either.


so im split on this too
TayTay**
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May 30th, 2006 at 04:40pm
I'm with everyone on this. I am split.
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May 30th, 2006 at 04:46pm
TayTay**:
I'm with everyone on this. I am split.


My parents are divorced, and I feel it was for the better. They just fought too much.
There are the bad things about it too I guess. I live on the East coast with my dad, and my mom and sister live out West, so I don't really see them a whole lot.
john bonham.
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May 30th, 2006 at 04:46pm
Divorce hurts, it hurts mostly (if they have them) the children.
Imagine this:
Your mom and dad love each other dearly, or so it seems, you love your siblings and you have a fairly happy life.

Then your parents divorce, you are separated from one of the parents that you love or one of the siblings that you love. It happened to me. More than once.
People get married because they are in love with each other. Then gradually they grow apart.
Everybody has their differences. I think couples should try to stay together. Try to discuss their differences. If it's absolutely neccesary though, I have nothing against divorce.
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May 30th, 2006 at 04:50pm
I think divorce is a personal choice.My parents divorced almost 12 years ago and I personally think it is for the best. My life at home is much happier and relaxed now living with just my mum. I remember when I was younger I used to see everything that was happening especially to my mum. I think my mum was right to leave my dad and she is much happier now. Sometimes divorce is the only answer.
assiralc talc
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May 30th, 2006 at 04:52pm
i think parents need to put themselves first if they're planning on divorce, rather than spending 20 more years together just for the children.
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May 30th, 2006 at 04:54pm
clarissa:
i think parents need to put themselves first if they're planning on divorce, rather than spending 20 more years together just for the children.


I agree 100%. I think it's unfair for children to grow up with parents that stay together even though they're absolutely miserable and hate each other.
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May 30th, 2006 at 04:56pm
clarissa:
i think parents need to put themselves first if they're planning on divorce, rather than spending 20 more years together just for the children.


Completely agree it just is not fair because I think it does affect the children.
dean moriarty.
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May 30th, 2006 at 05:05pm
My mom was divorced from my dad when I was little; about 3. I don't remember much but alot of yelling and singing and screaming, and I knew that was wrong.
They divorced because my dad was gay. I don't know about you, but if my husband was gay, I'd definitely be all for signing those divorce papers knowing that I'd have another chance at love, and that he'd be happy to find a man out there for him.
My mom later married a man named Bill, who had a tagalong child, my stepsister, Janell, and together [my mom and bill] had my brothers.
My stepfather then became an alcoholic and abusive, he was terrible to my mother and my sister, I remember cowering in my bed, pepper spray bottle clutched in my hands for fear of him coming in and doing something while he was drunk.
I was 11. What a horrible thing for an 11 year old to learn, that marriage can only bring the results I'd seen.
So, we moved out of that house and into my mom's old house, where she grew up, with my brothers [my sister was old enough to live with her mother by now]. I am so much happier, and I know that though it may bring pain at first, divorce is only good in the end.
gia
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May 30th, 2006 at 05:12pm
Yara:
I think it's unfair for children to grow up with parents that stay together even though they're absolutely miserable and hate each other.


That's my case. And I'm currently begging my mom to divorce my dad. But she doesn't want to.
snow at christmas.
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May 30th, 2006 at 05:20pm
Divorce is needed, but it's made people less cautious about who they marry. I think someone's said that, but yup. That's what I think.
Eveline
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May 30th, 2006 at 05:23pm
When 2 people don't "connect" anymore , then I understand that theres a divorce needed. But honestly I think all the misery go's to the kids. That's the bad thing about divorces.
dean moriarty.
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May 30th, 2006 at 05:24pm
runk_pocker:
When 2 people don't "connect" anymore , then I understand that theres a divorce needed. But honestly I think all the misery go's to the kids. That's the bad thing about divorces.

I honestly do not think that the misery from my parent's divorces went into me, It just made me realize things like that love can stop, and that I don't think I'll ever get married unless I'm absolutely completely sure, which will be never.
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May 30th, 2006 at 05:28pm
Black Glasses:

I honestly do not think that the misery from my parent's divorces went into me, It just made me realize things like that love can stop, and that I don't think I'll ever get married unless I'm absolutely completely sure, which will be never.


I am like that regarding getting married myself. It's made me really wary and I will have to be completely sure because I have seen marriage go so horribly wrong and the hurt from that.
dean moriarty.
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May 30th, 2006 at 05:29pm
which way:
I am like that regarding getting married myself. It's made me really wary and I will have to be completely sure because I have seen marriage go so horribly wrong and the hurt from that.

To really sum it up, all I've learned from marriage of all sorts, is pain.
And pain is just not what you want in your love life, is it?
So being sure of who you marry, and how much you are in love, is my foundation for relationships and the like.
Leonardo DiCaprio
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May 31st, 2006 at 02:30pm
divorce should only be for 2 reasons.
if you don`t know what they are,look
in the bible.
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May 31st, 2006 at 02:38pm
Cut My Wrists:
divorce should only be for 2 reasons.
if you don`t know what they are,look
in the bible.


I don't have a bible...


Well... I don't know... It would have hurt just as much when my parents split even if they hadn't got married to start with.

And they were inlove once. And they wanted children.
And it didn't last. But that's life. You can't not have children just because you might break up sometime in the future.

I was very lucky when my parents got divorced. They're still the best friends, and I'm glad they got divorced (although I was sad at first), because now they're happy, and they weren't before.
Bloodraine
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May 31st, 2006 at 02:42pm
Cut My Wrists:
divorce should only be for 2 reasons.
if you don`t know what they are,look
in the bible.

A book written more than two millennia ago by countless different authors?

I'd be inclined not to put my faith in that. Thats just me personally though.