Teen Pregnancy
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| fabulous killjoy. Moderator  Age: 31 Gender: Female Posts: 46256 | idk. my bff jill?: jimmy sullivan.:Condoms break, pills fail - anything of their own fault and irresponsibility? Not really. Of course they had sex, but they took necessary precautions and that in itself was responsible. They had no idea they would be having a kid at the time. If you're not using the correct forms of contraception, that is irresponsible, but I don't get how using protection and ending up with a kid is irresponsible. You can work a job while you're pregnant, it's not like you lazy around for 9 months waiting. People can still go to schools, and get into colleges and stuff. A lot of colleges offer plans for parents/ expecting parents, so there's no reason why getting pregnant means not persuing the continuation of education. Colleges have daycare centers... Your life doesn't end when you have a kid as a teenager. You can still hang with your friends. You can't party with drugs and alcohol, but I think partying is as equally irresponsible as pregnancy; most mothers are happy that they had a child as a teen... no huge regrets at all. |
| Tallulah Admin  Age: - Gender: Female Posts: 16777215 | I posted this a year ago but i'm reposting it now. Sophie is now 17, her son is 2. She is doing her A-Levels and wants to go to University to be a teacher. She is still with her boyfriend and is a wonderful Mum. Not all teenage pregnancies are disasters. Yes, ideally you should wait, but if you do get pregnant young it isnt always the end of the world. Tallulah; Schechter: |
| daremr_MCRmy Killjoy  Age: 27 Gender: Female Posts: 9 | I'm against both teen pregnantcy and aportion. I feel that if they're stupid enough to get pregnant, they should have to deal with it and take it responsibily |
| Tallulah Admin Age: - Gender: Female Posts: 16777215 | Well lets just hope it never happens to you. It's easy to be so judgemental when you've never been in a situation. |
| Person0001 Always Born a Crime  Age: 43 Gender: Female Posts: 5099 | gwyneth: I just don't know how responsible I think it is to let a thread full of teenagers know that you as an adult think it's perfectly fine for them to go out and get knocked up, but fine. I'm glad my kids don't read this thread. P.S.: at no point did I call anyone else's opinion "wrong." |
| Tallulah Admin Age: - Gender: Female Posts: 16777215 | I don't think anyone is saying it's fine to get 'knocked up' at a young age. Thing is as this is a discussion thread we have to look at both sides of the argument. If this was personal questions then it would be very different. He we look at all the threads in that way I guess some of the other threads in this forum would be advocating necrophillia or drug use. In my job I come into contact with a lot of pregnant teenagers and while it is far from ideal and often feels like the end of their lives, i think it's important they know it doesn't have to be. |
| Alexface. Salute You in Your Grave  Age: 31 Gender: Male Posts: 3489 | daremr_MCRmy:Getting pregnant doesn't necessarily make you stupid. As it's been said, protection doesn't always work, and you can hardly call some stupid if they're responsible and sensible enough to think about it and use protection. And basically you're saying having a baby is punishment for getting pregnant? That's not a very nice way of viewing it. |
| Mindfuck Always Born a Crime  Age: - Gender: Female Posts: 5614 | daremr_MCRmy:I reject the idea that having an abortion is somehow associated with not taking responsibility. I think if you look closer, in some circumstances having an abortion is completely responsible. What if they cannot afford a kid? If they're teenagers they'll likely have no money of their own. They'll most likely be scared. And if they don't want it but are forced through a pregnancy? There is a definite possibility for resentment there. Abortion =/= irresponsibility. |
| fabulous killjoy. Moderator Age: 31 Gender: Female Posts: 46256 | And while they can't afford a kid and adoption is an obvious answer before killing a kid, some families don't have enough money to pay medical bills for the baby in the first place daremr_MCRmy:when you force someone to do something, they're not going to like it. teens getting pregnant isn't stupid unless they're doing it on purpose, but then again - is it any of our responsibilities to judge them? |
| Alexface. Salute You in Your Grave Age: 31 Gender: Male Posts: 3489 | gnihsams snikpmup.:Why is adoption an obvious answer before abortion (or 'killing a kid' as you put it) ? Abortion is not killing a kid. It's terminating a foetus (which, at the point when it is supposed to be done, cannot feel/know anything), which is completely different. Also, adoption services are not a good place to be for a child. They're overflowing with unadopted children as we speak. |
| Mindfuck Always Born a Crime Age: - Gender: Female Posts: 5614 | Deb:It literally stopped reading right there. My Dad was a high school drop out who left school at 15 and went to go live on his own. When he left he could barely spell his own name, his dyslexia was that bad. My mum had to repeat year 12 once, and dropped out in her first year of university. But they became parents with virtually no support - they had little money for most of my upbringing up until the past few years or so. And to be honest - they're pretty damn good parents. I had a fantastic childhood, apart from a few rough patches in my family life (but that's a given). I don't see what education or job experience has to do with having a kid. Teenage pregnancy doesn't have to be a negative thing. Deb:You quoted me on the last page saying I "wasn't helping any". Where exactly was I encourage teenagers to go around and get knocked up? That wasn't the gist of my post at all. I was merely stating that teenage pregnancy does not have to be so negative and life-ruining. I gave an example of my friend in high school who - although became a young mother - is doing quite well for herself now in terms on getting 'on the right track' with life. For some, it can ruin their life, but not for all. |
| Jenny. Moderator Age: 29 Gender: Female Posts: 19720 | Deb:I don't think it's encouraging anyone to get "knocked up". I'm 15, which is bang smack in the middle of teenage, and I'm in no way encouraged to get pregnant. Nobody is saying it's "perfectly fine", it's just that when it DOES happen, it's not the worst thing in the world and it can be dealt with in a fantastic way. |
| xxZalanortxx Killjoy Age: 28 Gender: Male Posts: 79 | I think they should be allowed to if they are a fitting parent at least 16 years old , but I personally would suggest an abortion. Depending on how they have matured physically at this point. Often times their hips aren't wide enough , their breasts aren't large enough, etc. I think not allowing them to have it is kind of against their civil rights. |
| LunacyFringe Killjoy  Age: 30 Gender: Female Posts: 82 | Some people act like getting pregnant as a teenager is the absolute worst thing that could happen. Thats ridiculous. Though teenage pregnancy is rarely planned, nore is it easy, it is not the end of the world. Look around you, get to know your neighbors, people around town, the liklihood is that you will find quite a few women who were indeed teenage mothers and are now living life as normal as ever, with happy, healthy children. Keeping and raising a child as a teenager is possible. Motherhood is not easy, under any circumstances, but so many women have been great mothers, whether they gave birth when they were 16 or 45. Dont assume that a young girl doesnt have the ability to be a good mother to a child. Life comes with consequences. Sometimes we need to learn to embrace the choices we've made, hold our heads high and take responsibilty for ourselves, and in this case for an unborn child as well. Teenage pregnancy is rough, and I in no way encourage anyone to get pregnant as a teenager, but if you are a teenager and you do happen to get pregnant, your life is not over. You can still have a life, you can still have fun, you can still be happy, even if it all takes a little more effort then raising a child when you are older. |
| Mindfuck Always Born a Crime Age: - Gender: Female Posts: 5614 | xxZalanortxx:...? Your breasts and hips do not have to be a certain size for one to bear children. |
| fabulous killjoy. Moderator Age: 31 Gender: Female Posts: 46256 | Alexface.:because that's what people think of first a majority of the time. Abortion is viewed as different thing by different people. Honestly? The fetus is a child, even if it isn't born yet, imo. You might not view it as such, but... |
| xxZalanortxx Killjoy Age: 28 Gender: Male Posts: 79 | Mindfuck: Your hips need to be the proper size for them to pass through the birth canal safely. Even though many mothers switch to bottle feeding their babies, they usually still need to be breast-fed for at least a little while. |
| Tallulah Admin Age: - Gender: Female Posts: 16777215 | Not true I'm afraid. Its a myth. You can give birth with tiny tiny hips (my sister in law is a size 0 and less than 5 foot and gave birth naturally to 4 children, including 2 breech babies. Hip size is a myth. As for breast size, tiny breasts can breast feed just as effectively as large breasts. Plus, you dont "need" to breast feed children at all. It's encourage but it is not "needed". Trust me, I've read everything there is to know recently *is due in at least 7 weeks* |
| fabulous killjoy. Moderator Age: 31 Gender: Female Posts: 46256 | xxZalanortxx:Uh, babies don't need to be breast fed for a while. Here, they let the mother try it if they want to, and if they don't like it they switch to bottle feeding and that's that. They have baby bottles and whatnot in hospitals, my sister was bottle fed from birth. Boob size has nothing to do with anything. All woman are created differently. Women, even when older, still don't necessarily get larger breasts as they age. However, they get bigger during pregnancy for that purpose. |
| Mindfuck Always Born a Crime Age: - Gender: Female Posts: 5614 | xxZalanortxx:No, they don't. Where did you get that from? Hip size doesn't impact on birth, and breast size doesn't impact on breast feeding. It's the function of it that counts... |
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