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Mentally/emotionally unstable parents

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Ghostgirl191
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October 17th, 2007 at 10:53pm
they can be dangerous to their kids/family/selves.

like that woman a few years ago in Texas, she drowned all of her kids in the bath tub (i think she had 5 kids, it could of been 4) because "Satan told her too"

and the woman who put her baby in a microwave and turned it on because the baby wouldnt stop crying.

what should you do if you have an unstable parent?
do you think that there are warning signs to pay attention to?
what do you think about this whole thing?
CyanideRomantic
Killjoy
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October 18th, 2007 at 02:13pm
I think its horrible, but ,sadly at the same time, its kind of easy to understand why.
So many parents are not emotionally stable to raise a child and as soon as a child starts acting up, the only thing that clicks in thier head, is to make them stop, right then and there.
My mother had a shit load of kids and she had trouble with that ( not putting us in the microwave type of thing, Satan telling her to kill us children). We never got along when I was younger( 2 years to 13 years( I know young)) But as I got older she was able to deal with me more because she needed a support system she didnt have.
The thing is though that most of these unstable parents tell someone beofr hand . The mother who drowned her children??? Told her mother she was going to do it, Obviously she didnt do anything to prevent it, get the mother help
The women who put the baby in the microwave, I recall her being the babysitter, and she told her friend a few days befor that if the child misbehaved again she would just put him in the microwave, no one did anything.Society has played a part in it just as muc as the unstable parent themselves. I feel though that we choose to ignore it and it is just as much as our sin as thiers.
I remember back in the day when someone told me their parents beat them and it was like OMG!!!!....now im just like "Yeah I know how its like, It happened to so-and-so last week, i remeber this one time my mom..." Now we all know about it and we do nothing to help it...I kind of babbled on but my point is.....There are plenty of signs, plenty of ways to help someone out, including the parents.
sweet disposition.
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October 18th, 2007 at 07:25pm
Parents need more awareness on how to act in situations which they feel they cannot handle.

There's usually a solution.

I remember someone putting their child in the washing machine as well once. Sad
King Of The Jews JR
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October 22nd, 2007 at 03:20pm
My mums unstable, but thats why i love her.
She could have killed me years ago but didnt, because im her little miracle.
(back story is im a genius, well close to it 220IQ and both my siblings are disabled with Autism)

But in most cases give the parent help, LOTS of help...
Firefly.
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October 22nd, 2007 at 08:08pm
My mom's an alcoholic and very emotionally unstable. And lemme say, it sucks.
Pistol_GeeBucks
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October 22nd, 2007 at 08:40pm
My mother had a personality disorder. Is that the same?
I don't live with her anymore and she isnt allowed to have or look after any kids. Sad

We haven't been in contact for seven years I think. But she's appealing to court to see me again. Im not sure how I feel about it. But i dont completely blame her.
Ghostgirl191
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October 23rd, 2007 at 06:17am
well my friend has a very unstable mom and it really does suck to see that, and there are many signs to watch out for, like the woman in texas who drowned her kids, her husband met her when she was trying to kill herself, she was floating face down in a pool trying to drown herself, and he walked by and complemented her beautiful hair. wtf?

why would you trust someone like that to be the mother of your children. and he kept telling her to get help but she never did.

but what do you guys think could be some mental/ emotional effects on us? if we do if unstable parents.
DAMAGECONTROL
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October 23rd, 2007 at 08:42am
My dad is an 'unstable parent'. He's like mentally ill too but he doesn't wanna take any pills or anything 'cause he claimes that he's perfectly well. But I don't think that someone that trashed a hotelroom just 'cause he wanted to is healthy. Those people, whatever they're called doesn't want me and my brothers to live with him, so we live with my aunt 'cause my mom died. And sometimes he calls and yells at my aunt and says that she stole his children and things like that. And usually when he calls I just pretend that I'm not home 'cause I don't wanna talk to him. He's really scary and I don't know what I would do if we had to live with him.
shazzam
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October 24th, 2007 at 12:33pm
Ghostgirl191:
they can be dangerous to their kids/family/selves.

like that woman a few years ago in Texas, she drowned all of her kids in the bath tub (i think she had 5 kids, it could of been 4) because "Satan told her too"

and the woman who put her baby in a microwave and turned it on because the baby wouldnt stop crying.

I like this topic but aren't too sure if I like the way you put that. Frankly, I'm offended.
They CAN be dangerous but I think the extremes you used as examples are seriously... 1/1000 of a chance.

By step-dad is apparenty severely depressed and I didn't know until he told me but I think its masked due to the fact he's take 175 g of anti-depressents. When I was diagnosed with depression when I was 12, I only got up to 50 g... so you can see how horrified I was. (I've overcome my depression, by the way. I think when I was 12, it was just a baddd year).
He isn't a psycho though. He's a good guy, we just try and help him out here and there. He's been through a lot so I can see why he's depressed... his ex-wife took away his kids and he also lost a business.

I think people whose parents are mentally or emotionally ill get taken care of, most of the time. I'm sure that if there was something very very very wrong, someone would know about it and perhaps would be able to avoid something bad happening. The times where people have hurt family members or pets, due to mental or emotional instability, could've been prevented if only someone knew how far the people could go.
TaraIsBack!
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October 24th, 2007 at 02:27pm
While it's sad that normal people can have a lapse in judgment, I think that anyone who has a diagnosed mental problem and commits a crime when they didn't take their medication, should be tried as a person of sound mind.

Children of parents who are mentally unstable should be removed from the home until the medication has a chance to work and only be brought back pending a psych evaluation. People should be on the lookout for this too, many young children cannot speak for themselves or may not know that something is wrong.

Any person who has had children permanently removed from the home should then have any other subsequent children also removed. I have recently found out that some cities or states will "give them another chance" if a new baby comes along and not remove it like the previous children.

Abuse of children is not something I take lightly. Whether they are mentally unstable or not. This is a child we are talking about. If someone is unfit to raise them, then the child should be removed and given the chance of a better life.
John St. John
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October 24th, 2007 at 07:45pm


my dad is at the moment "unstable" ... But its not like im scared of him, however there are times when i want him to be locked away , for his own good though.

Ghostgirl191
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October 24th, 2007 at 09:53pm
JesusFrost:
Ghostgirl191:
they can be dangerous to their kids/family/selves.

like that woman a few years ago in Texas, she drowned all of her kids in the bath tub (i think she had 5 kids, it could of been 4) because "Satan told her too"

and the woman who put her baby in a microwave and turned it on because the baby wouldnt stop crying.

I like this topic but aren't too sure if I like the way you put that. Frankly, I'm offended.
They CAN be dangerous but I think the extremes you used as examples are seriously... 1/1000 of a chance.

By step-dad is apparenty severely depressed and I didn't know until he told me but I think its masked due to the fact he's take 175 g of anti-depressents. When I was diagnosed with depression when I was 12, I only got up to 50 g... so you can see how horrified I was. (I've overcome my depression, by the way. I think when I was 12, it was just a baddd year).
He isn't a psycho though. He's a good guy, we just try and help him out here and there. He's been through a lot so I can see why he's depressed... his ex-wife took away his kids and he also lost a business.

I think people whose parents are mentally or emotionally ill get taken care of, most of the time. I'm sure that if there was something very very very wrong, someone would know about it and perhaps would be able to avoid something bad happening. The times where people have hurt family members or pets, due to mental or emotional instability, could've been prevented if only someone knew how far the people could go.


i wasnt trying to offend anyone. but the truth is. a lot of times when kids are involved, they arent to sure of whats going on and if they do, they dont know what to do because they love their parents so they wind up all confused.

and i think that if someone is given medicine and they have kids, then someone should be checking in to make sure that they are taking it in order to keep any children and family out of harms way.