Ignorance

oh god i thought it was just me who could see their arses from the back ... the rap that they listen to is mostly about drugs n killing the parents with guns n shit now come on if thats ok why isnt rock or metal and emo ???

Beeblebrox:

Well, just remember to put yourself in your parents shoes. You are their child and they want to be sure you're growing up in the right manner with the ability to make the right decisions when you become an adult. They might think, as my mom did, that certain types of music or bands might have a bad influence on their kid and they have the right to censor that. Until you are a legal adult, it's unfortunately your parent's right.

It sucks, I know. But I realize now that my mom was just being a good mom. She was looking out for me mainly because she cared and partly because in all honesty, some of the songs were quite violent and vulgar. You have to step back and see things like an adult, you have to see how some parents can't see past the words "murder scene, bullets, kill all your friends, deathwish, etc."

The best solution is not going to be to fight it. That's just going to make things worse and show them you're not mature. The best solution is to level with them, in a clear, mature and adult way that they can understand. You have to explain that the music doesn't make you violent or depressed or suicidal, that it makes you feel good and maybe even gives you hope. Hopefully, if you can meet them on some even ground they'll accept your choices.

I agree with her

There's a huge difference between sheltering kids and taking an interest in them. I work with elementary school kids and some of them like MCR and we'll talk about them, but I SEVERELY edit my conversations and will not talk to them about certain songs. While I agree that telling a child not to do something will encourage them to do it even more, forcing your child to be JUST LIKE YOU is ridiculous.

I was fairly lucky growing up, I listened to a lot of heavy stuff, industrial, punk, alternative, my tastes were competely opposite of everyone else's, and my grandmother didn't mind as long as I let her listen to it first then I listened to it on my headphones. So she would listen to it, ask me what it was that attracted me to the music, and took an interest. She never banned anything, but she would say things like "Why don't you listen more to that nice Cure band, I like them better than Nine Inch Nails." She didn't like it, but she understood why I liked it. I do the same with the kids I work with.

I feel bad for those of you whose parents ban something without trying to understand it. I think if I did have a kid I would let them listen to whatever they wanted, as long as they shared it with me and told me why it meant so much to them. It would be a way for me to better bond with my child, and understand them more.

i do definitely think parents do deserve a say into what we listen to or how we dresss

but they should only have a 20-40% say into was whe do;....

no dictate our styles~!

OMG i just read someones coment about a phase....dont you just hate it when they tell you its a fase when you know that its not a phase and that it is truely one of the greatest things ever happened

My dad is the main one who has a problem with the bands I like. About a year ago I really got into the screamo/hardcore/metal type of music. He always makes comments about my music but doesn't stop me from listening to it because most of the band I listen to is Christian.

The main thing he has a problem with is me listening to Avenged Sevenfold, mostly because I got really obsessed with them and he didn't me wearing the Deathbat. He watched the videos and flipped out on me about it. He has yet to discover MCR, but if he does that could be a issue.

I know my dad is looking out for me, but I am capable of making my own decissions and I think he has realized that I know what is right and wrong

i think even with some of MCR's wording they are still very mild compared to avenged sevenfold lol

Phoenix:

[b]EDIT: God forbid the first thing your parents ever heard of MCR was "Mama".
"Mama, we all go to hell." ...and so on...
Good? I don't think so...

that was the first mcr song my family heard...
seriously.
I was listening to it and my mum came in and was like "what the fuck?!"
and i was like uhh...it's my chemical romance"
and she was like "i don't want you listening to them anymore"
i continued listening to them and she realised they're not as bad as she thought
but she'd prefer it if i listened to: Mika
Rihanna
Justin Timberlake etc
Like my sister does.
But whatever.
She actually likes a couple of their songs now

you know your right in a way but i also disagree cuz i get made fun of because i like mcr and this is one of mine and some other kids im sure way to vent the anger
so........

I can understand a bit if parents don't like you listening to MCR because of say the lyrics (Mama we all go to hell), but I think if they understood the message that MCR gives to their fans, they might not be so strict.
My mom thought they were 'scary' at first, but once she properly listened their music, she likes them now.
She kind of has a crush on Gerard too, which I find [b]really[/i] freaky lol =D