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Suicide and Self harm

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angelofthemissed
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June 18th, 2012 at 06:05pm
I think suicide and self- harm can be prevented by parents praising their children regularly starting when they are infants, so kids have higher self- esteems.
I think suicide and self-harm can effect relationships with family and friends and how well the person is doing in school, which really just seems to make it worse
I'm not sure if it is more common now than a decade or two ago.
I think their are enough support groups since this seems to be very common now.
I think by being there for the person and listening and not judging them is how family can help
Lookalivesunhine34
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July 12th, 2012 at 10:46am
suicide and self harm is much more common now than older days. Bullies, and media plays a big part in it too.
My Chemical Kid
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November 18th, 2013 at 01:36am
Suicide and selffharm i believe are so prone in this society today is because there are so many ways to bully a kid into ruining his or her life. The main way would be cyberbullying. Yes I know this falls in the fault of the bully but i think a parent is at least a little responsible for giving a young kid (ive seen 7 year olds with iphones) a phone with so many abilities as of a smartphone. Giving a young kid a phone and all these social networking accouts just makes them more and more susceptible to bullying than ever before and a young kid wont know how to deal with the bullying and will most likley keep it bottled up inside, which is toxic. Yes, i know being a kid and having all this access and technology is 'cool' and a parent just wants to please their child so they are torn between possibly socially ostracizing their child by not giving them the technology or putting unwanted stress on them by the messed up world of everything that can happen with such a powerful device. With the extra stress load and if the kid is being bullied they might turn to selfharm but some kids are young enough not to know what that is. (although with rising technology...) This day in age suicide rates in kids are crazy outrageous and i think there are easy ways to fix it right infrot of us we just don't want to change. I know I'm young myself and i dont know much, but this is just what I think.
ShelbyIeroWay
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September 23rd, 2014 at 10:57am
Its more common now then it was 10-20 years ago because society buts so much pressure on everyone now to be "perfect"... but in all reality YOU are already perfect and dont have to "fit in" with societies "rules" everyone is beautiful already and you dont have to do anything to change that... If you feel as if you want to self harm please tell anyone who is willing to help you and who you trust....there are many support systems out there my personal favorite happens to be music.. Suicide is NOT the answer for anything...trust me... you think that it will be better if your gone? its not you will hurt everyone that you tried not to...please if you are having suicidal thoughts please contact anyone who will help you
whipstickagostop;
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September 24th, 2014 at 11:08pm
To be fair, I think the only reason it seems more popular now is because of the media. If you look at adverts from yesteryear they have emphasis on idealised beauty as well.
Frnk iero.
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September 25th, 2014 at 10:12am
I agree with Brandy, but i also think that the kids who are now say 14-22 remember a time where there was a universal teenage depression. There was something dark about 2006/7. Something happened (at least in my area) where everyone just...fell. We all kind of muttled through each day, waiting to go home to our own devices and fall into a stormy sleep.
I'm very interested in knowing what the fuck that was.
Because it seems like there was a natural rise in all of us, to destroy.
roseieroway
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October 29th, 2014 at 12:26pm
I am 17, and I have been suffering with severe depression for the past five years. I believe that society as a whole over-glamorizes suicide and self-mutilation, which makes those of us suffering feel ashamed.
roseieroway
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November 14th, 2014 at 09:55am
/um...what the hell is that?
hunzana
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January 30th, 2016 at 12:57pm

I've been severely depressed and suicidal since i was 11. I've been cutting on and off ever since. I have some tattoos covering scars but my entire upper arm is deep scars and i'm even embarrassed to wear tshirts. I've been feeling okay recently so thought i'd be able to admit all this without feeling ashamed.
OurLadyOfDemolition
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August 5th, 2016 at 09:42pm
I feel like it has to do with the fact that we live in a society where mental illness and self harm is often romanticized. Not to mention that with how strict schooling has become and the pressure that comes attached to choose a life path early on, kids feel like they want something that they can "control". They see self harm as that one thing they control. Almost among the lines of "I can't control all of this bad and stressful stuff happening, but I can control THIS thing that is affecting me."
Personally, that was a major component as to why I was self harming. While I also did have an eating disorder and my body dysphoria was much worse, I mostly did it for the sense of control. When I wasn't eating or I was bruising myself up or even just staving myself from sleep, I thought that I was in control. It hurt me, and I wasn't really in control, but I thought I was. That's how I fell so easily into that cycle of self harm.
As far as preventing and/or stopping self harm goes, it took my friends stepping in and actively helping me. For other people, it took talking to a therapist where they could get a diagnosis and maybe prescription. But no matter what, I feel that the biggest help is always to make it known that there are resources for self harmers or people dealing with thoughts of self harm. Make it a topic that feels like it can be brought up in a safe environment, but also make it clear that there is nothing ever worth hurting or damaging yourself over.
That's all I can really say on the topic.
KirstTheWorst
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April 22nd, 2018 at 06:52pm
I know how it feels to feel suicidal and to self harm and it seems like there is many others who have felt that way too so makes you feel less alone, I've only just came out of hospital due to mental health issues!
xfrankxgerardx
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January 2nd, 2020 at 01:04am
nobody is on here anymore but as someone that has struggled , i think self harm and suicide starts off by a spark, something happens that makes you anything but happy (sad,mad,anxious,depressed,suicidal,scared, ect) sometimes people can get over it and then there is the other group that has a more hard time. my personal case it started off as a childhood thing and then bullying and social media and other personal factors played a part. social media today is a huge part and bullying. its just crazy. its also sad (this happend to me so it might not apply or be seen the same as you), but its like two different people can hurt themselves the same way, one person gets pity and sympathy and compassion then the other person is called a freak and that "they should of done it" "nobody likes them anyway". its upsetting. everyone is valid, everyone has purpose and some people do things because they need help and nobody is listening so they act on an urge (not saying attention seeking). i wish people could just care about people. we are all one, every person on this earth is a person. everyone has feelings even if you have anti-social personality disorder where you cant feel sympathy you still have emotions. and social media these days glorify pills, weed, drinks (not judging if you do it im just saying the over use). im grateful that people go to music and then its just really sad when an influence dies from anything, especially suicide because when they are helping you through what you are going through then they go and do what you want its a tough situation. bullying is terrible now a days my brother in 4th grade is talking about kids getting in actual fights and some kid saying he wants to hurt himself. ive been to places with kids and it seems that its getting younger and younger and the bullying is starting at a younger age. i just dont know man i want the world to be a better place genuinely
xfrankxgerardx
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January 2nd, 2020 at 01:10am
its nice to know we can come somewhere and actually feel validated i wish more people were on here but even just seeing what people can say. i think that we could avoid some of these situations by listening and not judging , i know when i told my friend in 6th grade that i had been suicidal for 2 years and then we stopped being friends and she threated to use it against me. to not look at it as amo for a fight like "oh you always hide in your room and get bad grades so thats why you cut yourself". i wish i had someone at the start to just listen to what i had to say not immeditly freak out like yes its a given if your child, family memeber, friend anyone says they want to hurt themself your going to be alarmed and yes the proper actions should be taken but when they come and say yeah i cut or yeah i feel suicidal not immediatly freaking try to talk them through it cause it may be an urge and take extra saftey measures and TELL SOMEONE i cannot stress this enough, yes your friend will be pissed for a long time about it but i wish someone had told about me and my whole situations that occured this year could of been avoided (some parts). suicide is not a brush off the shoulder its life or death im keeping it 100 but one day they will say "please dont tell anyone" and the next day youll be looking and saying "i wish i told someone" but yeah this is just a part of it i think could help prevent