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The Effect of Single Parenting on Children

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mcr_grl296
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August 2nd, 2007 at 05:22am
My mom raised me by herself and I turned out bettr than most with two parents!
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August 3rd, 2007 at 06:31am
i really don't think that single parenting is different than otherwise, i suppose with the exception of income.

i think it depends on the parent[s].

i mean... my mom is a single parent and i'd like to think that i'm being raised pretty normally.

i have some friends who have two parents, who are disrespectful to them, and others not.

so i really don't think if matters whether you have both parents or just one. only the way that they raise you.
dont stop.
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August 3rd, 2007 at 07:03am

Do you think children with a one parent household aren't getting the right
morals/relationship ideas?

I think that a child that grows with only one parent is raised as well as a child
with both. And, usually, the parents doesn't stay single. I mean, my mom dates
once in a while and I think I'm getting a good example from the men she
dates. Well, at least it's a better example that I would get from my father, that's
for sure. I've seen single parenting done, so I know that it can work.

Do you date/are you married to someone raised in a one parent
household, and how does that effect your relationship with the person?

Actually, I've never dated anyone who's not been raised by both parents. I
mean, my last boyfriend's dad died when he was 3 and his mom re-married
when he was 5, so he grew up with a father figure. A father and mother figure
counts as both parents, right? He pretty much acted normal throughout the
relationship. Like any of my other boyfriends.

Are the children raised in a one parent household getting the right
parenting?

It depends on the parents. Really, it's not the 'lack of' a father that messes
people up. You know? Not having a father doesn't mess you up, it's more how
your parents treat you. If they actually show you they love you once in a while.
I was raised fine with my mother, alone. She makes fair income and she can
support both of us, I don't know what the problem is.



EDIT:And the other question someone posted;
Do you think that sometimes the government cheats single parents out of
child support?

Of course I do. Based on the fact that my father doesn't pay any. And he can't
give us the excuse that he makes no money because we know he has a great
job.

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August 6th, 2007 at 08:19am
Giacomo Paradisi.:

Do you think children with a one parent household aren't getting the right
morals/relationship ideas?

I think that a child that grows with only one parent is raised as well as a child
with both. And, usually, the parents doesn't stay single. I mean, my mom dates
once in a while and I think I'm getting a good example from the men she
dates. Well, at least it's a better example that I would get from my father, that's
for sure. I've seen single parenting done, so I know that it can work.

Do you date/are you married to someone raised in a one parent
household, and how does that effect your relationship with the person?

Actually, I've never dated anyone who's not been raised by both parents. I
mean, my last boyfriend's dad died when he was 3 and his mom re-married
when he was 5, so he grew up with a father figure. A father and mother figure
counts as both parents, right? He pretty much acted normal throughout the
relationship. Like any of my other boyfriends.

Are the children raised in a one parent household getting the right
parenting?

It depends on the parents. Really, it's not the 'lack of' a father that messes
people up. You know? Not having a father doesn't mess you up, it's more how
your parents treat you. If they actually show you they love you once in a while.
I was raised fine with my mother, alone. She makes fair income and she can
support both of us, I don't know what the problem is.



EDIT:And the other question someone posted;
Do you think that sometimes the government cheats single parents out of
child support?

Of course I do. Based on the fact that my father doesn't pay any. And he can't
give us the excuse that he makes no money because we know he has a great
job.



OK, I'll put my 2 cents in!

Do you think children with a one parent household aren't getting the right
morals/relationship ideas?
I think that a child raised by one parent as apposed to two is just as well off as a kid raised by two. Sometimes even better off. And children don't exactly have to
only know what having one parent is like, some still have two, just split up. I think that it is much better if your parents are split up if they were not good together/arguementitave/etc. I am raised in a household with one parent and a brother, but I still visit my other parent. The only really crappy thing is custody rights and child support/income. Other than that, I'm not turning out too bad!

Do you date/are you married to someone raised in a one parent
household, and how does that effect your relationship with the person?
Nope.

Are the children raised in a one parent household getting the right
parenting?
It depends. If they have one crappy parent, then no. If they have one good parent, YES! They may also have stepparents. It's not the lack of two parents that screws you up, its the lack of having a GOOD parent or parents.

Do you think that sometimes the government cheats single parents out of
child support?
Yes. And my mom (I live with my dad) has actually had money decucted from her pay check to go to child support. Even though that sounds a little different then the question asked, still. My mom also has a not-too-great job because she is trying to go through school to get a better one. She also is trying to raise 2 other late-teen boys on her own. She has a boyfriend, yeah, but... Plus, a few
years back, my mom moved hundreds of miles to be closer to me. I think that
is the sign of a good parent. My dad is also a good parent. He works like crazy,
and the government screws both my parents over or trys to, with all this crap
that they try to establish.

If that made any sense to you guys...
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August 8th, 2007 at 07:22pm
Here's my take on it. And some common misconceptions.

Familys with two parents are always better
NOT TRUE. I have heard, from friends that female children fight with their mothers more than there fathers. And boys fight more with their dads than their moms.

It's alway's the father's fault.
Haha, no. I am raised by my dad, and not my mom. My mother was not fit to raise children. She was more interested in drugs and sex. Sometimes it's a deadbeat mother who screws things up, not a father.

Do you think that sometimes the government cheats single parents out of child support?
Yes yes yes yes yes. My father had to pay child support on my sister and I for 4 years. You would think that my father would be getting child support, since we live with him, right? No, actually. My mother claimed that my dad never sent the checks, blah blah blah. The govt. believed her, and it was a huge mess. But now, we don't live with my mother, and she pays no child support, like my dad had to? WTF? It costs money to have kids. They're not hamsters.
Silverstein
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August 8th, 2007 at 11:38pm
My dad died four years ago when I was nine. I love my mom and we have a really good relationship. We talk a lot, unlike most other guys my age. She's all I have.
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August 9th, 2007 at 05:11am
single parents raising chirldren is totally cool ad i dont think that it would cause any problem with the child/chirldren

although if your a only child in the other sex for a parent it might get awkward when you go through puberty discussing changes and sex.
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August 23rd, 2007 at 03:26am
Well, My mom mostly raised me and I turned out fine but she can be the most selfish person in the world. Even though my Dad wasnt too much better
my mom and her ex-boyfriend alot of times treated us like shit. From my parents being divorced, I've discovered that I dont want to be like either of them
UndyingSoul.
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August 23rd, 2007 at 05:23am
I guess it all depends on the kid. This is random but it has to do with what we are talking about:

I was watching the movie Marvin's Room today and the teenage son Hank was really angry and confused. He actually burnt his family's house down. He lived with his mom and brother and was obssessed with a picture of his father. He spent most of his time thinking about his father only to find out that when Hank was 4 his father would hit him. Hank was destroyed inside.

So basically, some kids come out fine, and others cant handle it. It all depends on the kid.
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August 23rd, 2007 at 12:02pm
It depends on how the parent will bring up a child. But mostly, a parent
that left and returns will more often be hated by a child when he/she
grows up. The child might not understand why they were left by the parent.

But if the parent left with the child properly brings the kid up, the kid will
grow properly and kindly, and might not (75% of the time) hold a grudge
against the other parent, which will most likely be the dad.
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August 23rd, 2007 at 08:55pm
well my mom basically is a single parent. my dad is a workaholic and never home, i see him maybe a week a month. so my mom raises my little sister and me on her own.
i don't see any problem with it really, it is extremely hard on the parent though. it's one of the hardest things to do, raise a child, because you have to shield them, punish them etc, it's easier if you have someone to do it with. but i see no problem with it, sometimes it's better if a kid only lives with his mom because say the dad is abusive, then he's so much better off with just his mom then getting abused. there are a million and one different scenerios to this, and as long as the kid gets love support, and has the essentials, he's fine in my opion.
TakeMyFuckingHand101
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November 13th, 2007 at 12:31pm
I am from a single parent family and personally I think i was given 100% the best chance in life.
I learnt morals quicker and I also learnt to be more outgoing around people.
I learnt that love was the most important thing in any sort of relationship.
However the oly downside was that I had a very hands off relation ship with my mum.
I can't deal with change very well, I can get nervous over the slightest things and my emotions are there for the whole world to see.
Which is mainly why everyone calls me Emo.
I don't care I'm proud of my backround!
Hooley
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November 13th, 2007 at 02:03pm
Children need
food
clothing
warmth
love
attention
to be taught a sense of right and wrong
a roof over their heads
a parent/ parents that are their to suport them, and who they can go to in times of need.

I believe all of the above can be acheived in a one parent household. Obviously, the ideal is 2 parent household, but alot of things are far from ideal nowadays.

As long as a child has someone guiding them through life (be it a parent, grandparent, sibling etc), they'll be as fine as any other child from a 2 parent home. <<< make sense???

Bit off topic, but i've noticed alot of people who were brought up by one parent are very protective of that parent?
TakeMyFuckingHand101
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November 13th, 2007 at 02:33pm
Yeah I am but that may be coz my mum had cancer too.
So I feel even more protective.
But we really don't get on.
The arguments I have with her are just pure rage!
tabitha
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November 14th, 2007 at 12:38pm
I think it's becoming epidemic. I work with elementary school kids and out of the group, I'd say maybe 40 of them live with both their parents. The rest are either living with a single parent or a single parent with a live-in partner, and a very few live with a parent and a stepparent.

I hate it from my perspective because I've been put in the middle of custody battles and heard one parent blasting the other, sometimes in front of the child.

I do see, however, that the children of single parents are more likely to come in early and stay late, or get picked up by a grandparent, because that single parent often holds down two or more jobs to make ends meet. I think discipline and finances suffer the most, and the child bonds with whoever spends the most time with them because they are unable to bond with the parent.
TakeMyFuckingHand101
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November 15th, 2007 at 10:26am
My mum was the best she picked me up on time everyday...
She gave up her whole life to look after me.
With no help from my Grandma or her brother.
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November 15th, 2007 at 08:09pm
i think that single parents are a greater influence on their children because te child has their attention more than anything
Victim Of Love
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November 15th, 2007 at 09:54pm
I really think it effects a child, and as well in the adult life.

well the child does miss out on a lot during it's childhood. of course that does depend on the abilities and strength from the parent.
and yes I do think it affects views on relationship, maybe the person becomes scared or confused about relationships. I even think it can have an affect on the persons sexual interests, like say a girl only had her mother, she could turn, if not gay, then bisexual... or maybe the person could end up being a-sexual.

a child will always in some way, no matter what kind of raising it had, be affected by their parents and be a form of mirror.

I have not dated anyone with this kind of family relations, I haven't had a boyfriend/girlfriend... my mum is a single parent
Hooley
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November 16th, 2007 at 12:06pm
My mum and dad split up when i was 3 ish. But there has never just been me, my sister and my mum.
When they first split up, mum had to continue working, so we went to live with our grandparents in wales for a bit, and mum would see us at weekends. this obviously didnt last long because mum couldnt hack not seeing us.
Then we all moved in wth my auntie, her brother and her daughter. So there was always an extra 2 'parents' as well as my mum.
Then my mum met my step dad, so we had him around, when they split up me and my sister were 12 &14, so we were able to deal with it.

Anyways - my point is, yes, my mum may have been a single parent, but there was always another adult there for us. if you see what i mean? And that is the case for alot of children of single parents. I know for some there is only the parent. Just trying to expand on my other post. Children arent just influenced by the people they live with.

*trail of thought is lost again*