MCR blamed AGAIN!

I'm not even going to read the fucking article, because it will just raise my blood pressure. Fucktards.

Deb:

I told my parents about all of this. They're 67 and 72 years of age. It came up because we were discussing a group of small-town Massachussetts girls who made a pact to all try and get pregnant by the same homeless man and raise their babies communally (shrugs - I did say small-town here!)

I said "Yeah in England there have been a couple of 13 year old kids who committed suicide in a short time span, and the press is blaming the string of deaths on the 'emo suicide cult.' Apparently there are parents who believe that things like cutting and suicide are encouraged by bands like My Chem, when in actuality the websites that these kids most likely ran into are bully sites, and one kid took his life because he was being tormented by other kids online and at school."

The first thing out of their mouths? "And what's the matter with these parents? They see marks on their 13 year old daughter's arm and they DON'T get her help?" Then we discussed Timothy Leary. My Mom and I both agree that he too was blamed for the drug addiction of thousands of kids, and she made the point "Since when does one person saying something on television brainwash thousands? There are people on there every day saying NOT to do drugs as well - no one has been brainwashed by them. Where is the individual responsibility here?"

I am not here to blame grieving parents for the loss of their child, I am just relaying the knee-jerk reaction my own parents had to the story. We all have to be just a little bit more conscious of what's going on in our children's lives, who their influences really are and react swiftly to any sign of emotional trauma or illness. You can't prevent every kid who is determined to end their lives from doing so, but there is a decent percentage who can and want to be stopped, and scapegoating is not the answer.

Internet bullying has become such a serious issue that my son's school held a daylong sensitivity assembly on it, and I occasionally scour his myspace, facebook and IM logs for signs of it. I don't ever read his personal exchanges between himself and his buddies - I simply scan for threats; when I don't find any I move on and ignore what is written there.

It is laziness on the part of the media to simply chalk tragedies like this up to a "movement." People who are depressed tend to feel very much alone; they're hardly sharing their sorrows with the world here. As far the ignorance involved in quoting lyrics and shouting "See! They promote these thoughts in children!" I am going to hope that the British citizens of passable intelligence realize that this can't possibly be correct. For those susceptible to such thinking, intervention is in order, and I think a boycott is overdue here at this point. If I lived there, I'd organize one myself.

=] you always are well spoken and very clear in your meaning. unfortunately i'm not like that but i usually agree with you so i never need to add much. What I do have to add may not be as clear but i hope and think it will still make sense.
And, sadly, not all parents are like you.
It isn't that they don't love or care about their children but when kids become teenagers they want independence and the parents give them it. Sometimes its too much. We take advantage of that freedom. Sometimes in the wrong ways. We take advantage of our parents' trust. In small-town America there is nothing. Nothing except drugs, sex, and alcohol.
Really thats it. I live in a small town on the Chesapeake Bay and everything was normal. Until I entered my first year of high school. Things were so differetn. All the cool and popular kids smoked weed, drank alcohol, had casual sex. All of these kids were athletes and impossible to avoid. It was overwhelming. I know you are taught to avoid the peer pressure but that is easier said than done. Almost everyone ends up doing one of those things mentioned earlier. I was one of them. You know where that got me? Into a state of depression. I completely shut myself out. I dodn't hang out with people, I completely isolated, and stopped doing everything I loved. I didn't play field hockey anymore. I loved field hockey. I tuned out of the world. I didn't listen to music or watch t.v. anymore. I just laid in bed all day. I guess apart of it was me feeling sorry for myself. But I became confused and messed up in the head. I didn't know what to do. I wanted help. I wanted out. Not out of life but out of the life I was living. I had started cutting. And no, at the time I wasn't listwening to MCR. I wasn't listening to anything or anyone for that matter.
OK, now its time for my little side rant about cutting because I've been there done that. I'd like to menton once again it wasn't the music. It was the bullyling, the peer pressure, the drugs & alcohol, and being used for sexual things that got me to that point. Cutting isn't okay. It doesn't help anything or solve anything, no matter what you think. There's no point in it. You don't need to cause physical pain, because you have enough emotional pain to deal with. Please, for the love of God, talk to someone. Talk to your parents, or a guidance counselor because they can mediate the meeting with you and your parents. Get help. You will feel so much more alive and free. Break the cycle, breakdown the stereotypes. Knock down the walls you built yourself in. Speak out in a way other than the marks on your arm. You have a voice, use it. Stop cutting, because that only buries yourself in self-pity and depression even more.Stop feeling sorry for yourself. it may sound harsh but its true and needs to be said. Sincerely, a former cutter. (PM me if you wanna talk)
Back to my point. My parents found out. They got me help. I've been sober since mid March and I'm much happier. My parents and I communicate more and are closer. I am slowly regaining trust and freedom. I've regained control.
The 'emo culture' doesn't cause self-harm or suicide. And if it caused one it couldn't cause another. Cutting isn't a suicide attempt. Self-harm and suicide is caused by the feeling of lack of control. People view it as the only thing they can control. If a person really wants to kill themselves they will and you can't stop it. No type of band can cause you to feel a loss of control. However, major changes in your life can.
The Daily Mail has no understanding of this issue and just need to stop because its ridiculous. If they want a real viewpoint on it, get the kids that have been there to speak out. If they're so fair and balanced in their reporting they need to balance this issue with one about how a person pulled it through their difficult time. Which happens all the time. But the daily mail isn't the only problem.
The music is blamed all the time and there are tons of stereotypes to go with it. It isn't just in the U.K. but in the U.S. too, and probably all over the world. The people in other countries need to protest against the stereotypes about the music and spread the truth about self-harm and suicide. It isn't apart of a suicide cult or 'emo'. People that practice self-harm aren't 'emo. They are severely depressed and lost. Name calling will not help.
I also think that the 'journalists' blame music because the teenagers listen to the band members and their music and not their parents. The 'journalists'are adults [obviously] and maybe like to play the lame game instead of taking responsibility as parents like Deb does and my parents did. Parents need to step-up and talk to their kids and pay close attention. WE NEED YOU! And the kids need to talk to their parents and be open. Don't be afraid. They love you and want to help you.
/end rant [i hope it made as much snes as Deb's post. I aspire to write like her ]

I absolutely HATE when people blame them for someone's killing, or death, or whatever. Just because they listen to the music, doesn't mean MCR is to blame. Its like association. If someone dies of a heart attack, but they listened to, lets say, HIM, is it the band that killed him, or the heart attack that put him under so much stress? DAMN IT!! All they wanna do is help people, they wanna save the youth of this fucked up world, and what's the thanks they get? "You killed this kid, this kid, and this little prepubescent girl" WHAT THE FUCKING HELL IS UP WITH THAT?!?!!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!!?!/1/1/1?1/1?!!?!?!?/ In case you can't tell........I"m pissed.

To megannn!.
Your post was very beautiful.
I'm glad that you feel strong enough to be able to tell your story, and such a sad one it is. Your advice is very good. I think you're very inspirational.

P.S. You're not bad at writing

robert mccracken:

To megannn!.
Your post was very beautiful.
I'm glad that you feel strong enough to be able to tell your story, and such a sad one it is. Your advice is very good. I think you're very inspirational.

P.S. You're not bad at writing

thank you!!
edit:: and thanks and congratulations who took all the time to read that. ahahaha

As i see it, they're just trying to blame someone. Or something. whatever. It just so happens they chose MCR, well, we know they save lives. They know they save lives. I think we should just leave it at that. Cuz all this stuff it's going to fade, to become a thing of the past, but how MCR makes us feel, well that's gonna last forever.

They're always full of crap. Just ignore it and don't let it bother you.

fucking daily mail, i think there just gonna say more shit about mcr just to get more attention from us and more people reading there website to see what they've said. i say we shouldnt give em the satisfaction! xoxo

Well Megan, thank you for your compliments, but let me just say that not only was your post well-written, but brave, brutally honest and very commendable. Would you consider sending a version of it to a news outlet such as the Mail? I think they really need to hear a true account such as your own, and you could always send it in anonymously. I am so very proud of you for overcoming your difficulties - you are a strong individual, and I am honored to know you

Deb:

Well Megan, thank you for your compliments, but let me just say that not only was your post well-written, but brave, brutally honest and very commendable. Would you consider sending a version of it to a news outlet such as the Mail? I think they really need to hear a true account such as your own, and you could always send it in anonymously. I am so very proud of you for overcoming your difficulties - you are a strong individual, and I am honored to know you

awh deb lol thank you so much. and i would but i haven't really looked into the site when it comes to sending fully written accounts and whatnot..but i would definitely consider it if i knew how to go about it.

One thing i've always found stupid about this is, Rachel killed herseld in January now i know that the court thing wasn't untill may or sommet. But it still it was before the whole Hannah Bond thing kicked off. and she had tryed to kille herself 8 other times, she was bullied. What more evidence do you need.

I have gotten to the point where i've written down my 'MCR saved my life' story and tryed to send it to the Daily mail site. Its getting pathetic now, people keep telling us to just leave it, but we cant. This music keeps a lot of us alive and going, at least it does for me. And then when stuff like this happens they freak out and parents start burning and snapping all there kids MCR stuff (I've heard of a kid whose mum has done that)

My mum dosn't care about me liking MCR, hell she liked them before i ever did. She knows everything about them and she's the one who held me when i got upset over the Sun and The daily mail writing the crap about Hannah Bond. The media should just get it into there thick skulls that the more they try and bash MCR the more we will be determind to stand up for the band. (I hope posting videos on here is ok)

This happens all the time.

All parents and politians blame Marilyn Manson for Columbine.