Suicide and Self harm

its nice to know we can come somewhere and actually feel validated i wish more people were on here but even just seeing what people can say. i think that we could avoid some of these situations by listening and not judging , i know when i told my friend in 6th grade that i had been suicidal for 2 years and then we stopped being friends and she threated to use it against me. to not look at it as amo for a fight like "oh you always hide in your room and get bad grades so thats why you cut yourself". i wish i had someone at the start to just listen to what i had to say not immeditly freak out like yes its a given if your child, family memeber, friend anyone says they want to hurt themself your going to be alarmed and yes the proper actions should be taken but when they come and say yeah i cut or yeah i feel suicidal not immediatly freaking try to talk them through it cause it may be an urge and take extra saftey measures and TELL SOMEONE i cannot stress this enough, yes your friend will be pissed for a long time about it but i wish someone had told about me and my whole situations that occured this year could of been avoided (some parts). suicide is not a brush off the shoulder its life or death im keeping it 100 but one day they will say "please dont tell anyone" and the next day youll be looking and saying "i wish i told someone" but yeah this is just a part of it i think could help prevent