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HEARRTXX
Fabulous Killjoy
HEARRTXX
Age: 31
Gender: Female
Posts: 109
February 5th, 2008 at 11:04am
Should all familys be close? Or is it okay to fight sometimes?

If your having problems with your family go to talk to them about it!
TaraIsBack!
Bleeding on the Floor
TaraIsBack!
Age: 45
Gender: Female
Posts: 1618
February 5th, 2008 at 01:35pm
Everyone has disagreements, it comes with the territory.
In a perfect world tho, people wouldn't be disrespectful of each other. I believe in standing up for yourself, but also being compassionate. Sometimes people say things they don't mean.
You should try to forgive as much as they should try not to hurt again in the future.
The Joker
Salute You in Your Grave
The Joker
Age: 32
Gender: Female
Posts: 2482
February 5th, 2008 at 03:55pm
i think all families are different...
theres no way to make a family "be close"
because everyone has boundaries. some people like giving out hugs some don't etc
Some people like their own space some don't so there is no "perfect family" without a fight and argument here and there..

I just think parents shouldn't stay together for the kids, if they're unhappy don't drag it out any longer then it needs to be.
Sex and Candy
Salute You in Your Grave
Sex and Candy
Age: 32
Gender: Female
Posts: 2160
February 6th, 2008 at 03:51pm
The only close people to me in my family is my sister (20) and my older brother (30) (Half brother and sister) . otherwise im like a stranger to the rest. yes its true, everyone in a family fights, I especially fight when they go into my room and take my stuff.
The Almighty Bert
Always Born a Crime
The Almighty Bert
Age: 30
Gender: Female
Posts: 6773
February 17th, 2008 at 02:19pm
Every family is different.
Most family's I know fight, I know mine does. But even family's that fight can be close. You can not make a family "close" some are some are not.
It's strange actually most family's with a boy and a girl, or something like that normally dont fight as much as when they have two girls or two boys, girls more than boys.
Miracles.
Joining The Black Parade
Miracles.
Age: -
Gender: Female
Posts: 243
February 19th, 2008 at 02:38am
As it's been said, every family is different.

As for mine...they're close.
Except for me.
But I try not to get too involved.
Don't get me wrong, I love my family; but I have serious issues with my siblings.
The ordinary conversation between us goes something like this.
Sibling: The emo's come out of her room.
Me: F*** off.
Sibling: Oh so terrifying.
and yeah, thats it.
sweet disposition.
Banned
sweet disposition.
Age: 31
Gender: Female
Posts: 48272
February 19th, 2008 at 08:45am
I think it's nice to be close to your family, and to have one at all, it's in a way more sturdy than friendships.

However, if you really dislike say, your mum or dad, and they're truly a horrible person and you know you don't need them in your life, then why stay in contact?


And it is okkay to fight - it shows you care.
a line in a song.
Salute You in Your Grave
a line in a song.
Age: 30
Gender: Female
Posts: 3762
February 22nd, 2008 at 08:48pm
You should be close to your family because you might need them in the future and if you're in a really bad feud with your own flesh and blood, you wno't have anything to lean back to when you get older.
If you fight, that's a good thing. But if you regulary fight about the smallest things, the relationship's not so healthy.
blastoise
Killjoy
blastoise
Age: 32
Gender: Female
Posts: 15
February 23rd, 2008 at 03:06pm
Hm, I don't know what has happened to me and my family. I just don't talk to them anymore. It feels like I don't have energy left to care about them. Now when I write it, it sounds terrible. I don't know what to do. They've become strangers to me.
sherlock!
Crash Queen
sherlock!
Age: 31
Gender: Female
Posts: 30830
March 1st, 2008 at 11:42pm
My family and I are okay. My parents are a bit against my music, and we fight SOMETIMES, but I still really love them.

We even took a retreat before for family enrichment. It was kind of weird, but we got to tell each other how we felt there, and I got to tell them what I found unfair, and, you know, they were totally okay with that.
Bob_n_Me_4Ever
Fabulous Killjoy
Bob_n_Me_4Ever
Age: -
Gender: Female
Posts: 130
March 2nd, 2008 at 09:01am
I dont talk to my parents anymore they crushed my dreams and didnt even say sorry about it
Ghostgirl191
Jazz Hands
Ghostgirl191
Age: 32
Gender: Female
Posts: 288
March 8th, 2008 at 03:14pm
of course its okay to fight with your family every now and
then your family just like you fight with your
friends every now and then, it happens.
its better for families to be close, i agree,
but they door swings both ways.

my family isnt so close anymore.
we were a family of 4 and its become
a family of 2. my oldest brother moved
out and he's become a different person.
and as for me, i dont feel like i belong
in my family, i know every teen must say
this, but they just dont get me. and my mom
defends my brother all the time but
never me. over the summer she was
going to send me to live with my
aunt over a fight my brother started.

and my mom has even told me that
i dont fit in, she says it in a joking way
so that she can tell the truth without
being 'serious' one night the 3 of us
got into a huge fight and i ran to my room
and slammed the door. my brother came in
there and wouldnt leave me alone, i kept
screaming at him to get out, and finally
my mom made him, and after i closed my
door i heard my mom say "just let her cry
in her room like she always does"

i love my mom, but i dont think she loves me nearly as much as my brother and it hurts knowing that, and i try to fit in with them, but i dont think i should change for my family to love me. and my brother has hit me on more than 1 occasion, its usually every time we fight, and when i hit back, or defend myself, i get in trouble. but never him. its always my fault.
Coin.Operated.Toy
Killjoy
Coin.Operated.Toy
Age: 32
Gender: Female
Posts: 64
March 11th, 2008 at 05:51am
the only problem in my family is we do not open up with each other that much. we don't share problems, greet each other or ask them about their day. you know, we're not CLOSE. and that's not positive, i guess.
billy gaga.
Salute You in Your Grave
billy gaga.
Age: 30
Gender: Female
Posts: 3177
March 11th, 2008 at 05:30pm
Every family is different. I think people can be upset by the fact that their family isn't what they think it should be, in terms of the stereotype of a perfect family and things.
I think a family should be whatever way they want, as long as they are happy.
Of course, its nice for your family to always support you in everything you do, and for them to take an interest in your life, but its not needed to make you happy, so its okay if your family members don't.

I think it's wrong when family members upset you, and force you into things you don't want to do, like for an extreme example, prositution, because thats unfair.
Although, it can be called for, like if they force you to study, at least half an hour each week day, because they want you to get good grades, because even if it feels unfair, and you fall out with them over it, they still have your best interests at heart, (as bad, and cliche as it sounds), and its not harming you in any way.

skitty.
In the Cannibal Glow
skitty.
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Posts: 51832
March 21st, 2008 at 07:56pm
i think that a family isn't reality without a couple of fights
no one is perfect and u can't expect life to go exactly as u want it to
family's going to fight
like the other day, my dad called me Fat...and he still hasnt apoligized
ragdollx.x
Killjoy
ragdollx.x
Age: 31
Gender: Female
Posts: 47
March 21st, 2008 at 10:01pm
Family should be there for you, and a couple of fights will be normal. But if your family fights ALL the time, then they just become a bunch of people that you can never talk to about your problems or about anything that's going on in your life...which can eventually become mentally deadly.
Littlemisschem
Fabulous Killjoy
Littlemisschem
Age: 32
Gender: Female
Posts: 129
March 23rd, 2008 at 10:39pm
It's natural for families to fight, and actually, that's what makes them closer. Every member of your family should be able to rely on each other because that's what they're there for.
Cherokee
Banned
Cherokee
Age: 31
Gender: Female
Posts: 2300
March 24th, 2008 at 11:44am
lemmi tell you what happened to me.
well, I was still a young gal, pretty young. my mother was like a beast to me, at least that's how she treated me. when I grew up a lil bit I found out why she was this way, it was never her fault, nor was it mine. but still we never got to be close. I wanna get the hell out of mid east, and never come back. it's my dream I aint gonna give it up for a mother that hardly showed me any love! listen pumpkin, familes are gonna love each other, wether the members of it like it or not!
sofitegan
Killjoy
sofitegan
Age: 31
Gender: Female
Posts: 33
March 24th, 2008 at 01:31pm
Well... families will always fight. The important thing is that they still love and respect each other. IMO.
we are broken.
Salute You in Your Grave
we are broken.
Age: 28
Gender: Female
Posts: 3397
March 30th, 2008 at 05:58pm
my family fights all the time over everything it sucks and i feel like they resent me. i dont know what to do my parents keep talking about a devorce but it probably wont happen. i dont know if i love them or not but i love my sister and we are really close.if it wasnt for her i would not be here.