t'lema
Salute You in Your Grave
Age: 33
Gender: Female
Posts: 2109 | December 9th, 2008 at 02:01pm
Okay, I agree most asexuals live celibate lives, but I don't think it's possible to attain a state of asexuality, to me it's an orientation. Suggesting that, to me, is like, hoping one day you'll be gay or straight.
Some people may attain to be asexual, but I can't get my head around an idea like that. |
K.K.
Bleeding on the Floor
Age: 28
Gender: Female
Posts: 1787 | December 9th, 2008 at 02:20pm Mindfuck:tear:Lot's of old people have romantic relationships without sex.
If two people really love each other, they don't need sex - that prooves just how much they love each other
I was in a relationship like that with a girl, but we held the whole thing secret 'cause she had a boyfriend and my parents would have killed me if
they'd have found out that I was in love with a girl. (They're not Homophobic though and they wouldn't have killed me
they'd just make a big deal out of it..and that's as bad as killing me..)
I don't think either of those situations have much to do with asexuality. Just because you may not be having sex in a relationship it doesn't automatically mean you're asexual. If you're asexual, you're asexual for your whole life - not just up until you're 'old' and may not have such an active sex life anymore 
(By the way, I'm not saying older people don't have sex - they do - but I'm just saying for argument's sake).
ok, got it.
I guess asexual people are people who've got problems making friends or trusting people fully (?) |
Person0001
Always Born a Crime
Age: 43
Gender: Female
Posts: 5099 | December 9th, 2008 at 02:40pm Huck.:Okay, I agree most asexuals live celibate lives, but I don't think it's possible to attain a state of asexuality, to me it's an orientation. Suggesting that, to me, is like, hoping one day you'll be gay or straight.
Some people may attain to be asexual, but I can't get my head around an idea like that. Haha no - there is no way to make yourself gay or straight if you aren't, but I'm not really sure what asexuality IS - is it really a lack of libido, and can it be corrected with medication? |
t'lema
Salute You in Your Grave
Age: 33
Gender: Female
Posts: 2109 | December 9th, 2008 at 03:47pm ^Well, that's fair, not many people know how to define asexuality, even people who identify that way. It's an orientation with a lot of grey areas. Nobody knows what causes it, some people think that just like there are people with incredible high sex drives, they are just born with low sex drives (maybe the opposite of someone with nymphomania? I'm not sure if that works here) or yes it could be a hormonal thing, taking hormones could produce more sexual desire, but often that's not wanted (at least from the asexuals I know/have heard about)
But yes, it is often defined as a complete lack of libido. Some may have occasional arousal, but that's a physical thing. They aren't interested in other people sexually.
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ok, got it.
I guess asexual people are people who've got problems making friends or trusting people fully (?)
Sorry no (did you read the first post? I tried to explain it there) Asexuals can have friends, and be in trusting relationships, they just have no desire for sex. It's not that they can't be in relationships, they just don't want sex.
It's like understanding being gay, a person is attracted to the same sex, and wants to engage in sex with them. With asexuals, they are sexually attracted to neither sex, and don't want to engage in any sexual act. |
Mindfuck
Always Born a Crime
Age: -
Gender: Female
Posts: 5614 | December 10th, 2008 at 04:47am tear:ok, got it.
I guess asexual people are people who've got problems making friends or trusting people fully (?) Well, not really
As far as I know, people who are asexual can still be quite sociable people - they just aren't interested in sex. |
