Polyamorous

I think that, i mean i wouldnt do it but if their both up for it why not lol.
But i was podering, would people who have been in a long term relationship do i?o.o
Or is that another debate?

Sorry im never very clear, but thats what i meant XD

Shall be abit more clearer next time=]
Have trouble getting my words out xD

I'm pretty against that actually.
I don't know if it makes sense, but to me that's like saying to the person you were first dating, that, they aren't enough for you to be with, so that they need to have another so they can go to them when you aren't enough, and to you when they aren't enough.

But that's also how I view porn, like to an extent it says the same thing but, that whoever your with thinks you aren't that great that they need to watch other women do things.

Well, I definitely couldn't do it, I would feel much too guilty about it. But if my partner wanted to have a polyamorous relationship, then I would be okay with it, unless maybe I was uber-serious about him or her. -bisexual- I wouldn't want to restrain them to only myself, I would let them have more than one choice. I'm not for or against it, it does depend on a lot of things.

I think it's really stupid to be in two relationships and the partner knowing about it. It's generally like cheating, and it's also like adultery. People shouldn't do it.

i can see how it works for some people but it wouldn't work for me.
for people that either dont like commitment or can't commit themselves i'm sure it's great but mehh, not my cup of tea.
it's not love thats for sure.

It might be okay for some people but that depends on their morals or religious beliefs. Me, I won't discriminate against it but I don't find myself in that kind of relationship. I want to be in a relationship where both people are committed to one another.

horse_riders_r_stable_ppl:

i can see how it works for some people but it wouldn't work for me.
for people that either dont like commitment or can't commit themselves i'm sure it's great but mehh, not my cup of tea.
it's not love thats for sure.

I can assure you, it is very natural to romantically love more than one person. Monogamy isn't a natural thing for some people; some people feel entrapped by a monogamous relationship, so they seek out others who feel the same way. And believe me, there are people out there who love more than one person romantically.

Just because it isn't monogamy, is doesn't mean it isn't love.

Couldnt of put it better myself,
i know one guy (mate of mine) and he's polyamorous. He has three partners lol, and i asked him 'doesnt it get confusing or competitive?' and he said no cause love is a free thing an when it happens, it happens.
As Mindfuck said in the above they may feel entrapped, he does. I know i'm an arse for using my friend as an example XD
But just thought i'd share a first hand veiw from some one=]

i dont think that polyamorous would really work for me. I'd feel like i was cheating or something, and i think it would get competitive too.

Firegarder:

I think it's completely normal. This isn't people cheating on a partner, these are couples (and more of course) who are being completely honest and open with each other. If it works for them, then good for them living the life they want to so they can be happy.

I think in the west our culture dictates that monogomy is the only right way to have a relationship, and that's what is normal, but in many other cultures, it's not, and polygamy is quite common. I know that is mostly men having many wives, but I'm pretty sure there are places where women have more than one husband. I'll have to look that up... I don't know if that's going off the point a bit, but it's relevant to me!

It is not a lifestyle I would personally choose for myself (I think I'd probably be too jealous!), but I won't judge others if thats what they want/need to be happy.

What an excellent point ^^
Personally, I have been with the same man since January 2000. I get little crushes every now and then. And I channel that energy it gives into my relationship with my husband. If i did not do that, but actually acted upon it, I think we would drift apart.
When it comes to meaningless sweaty sex, with another person than your partner. Well, I guess that could add to a steady but ordinary sexlife. Thing is, in our relationship, its he who can not have sex without feelings. So it wouldn't work. So, I accept that and eat the same old cracker every day and add some of my own spices to it instead

Edit; Btw, when I met my husband, I did date 4 guys at the same time and they all knew about each other. I was just happy that I was single. Guess I was on a bit of a shoppingspree.
I was honest, I protected myself and to this day, 3 of those 4 guys are some of my best friends. (The 4:th thinking he "dumped me and wanted to spare me the pain of seeing him" Rofl) I don't think it was wrong.

Heybaberiba:

When it comes to meaningless sweaty sex, with another person than your partner. Well, I guess that could add to a steady but ordinary sexlife. Thing is, in our relationship, its he who can not have sex without feelings. So it wouldn't work. So, I accept that and eat the same old cracker every day and add some of my own spices to it instead

I'm not sure what you're saying here; that polyamory relationships are meaningless?

mindfuck.:

Heybaberiba:

When it comes to meaningless sweaty sex, with another person than your partner. Well, I guess that could add to a steady but ordinary sexlife. Thing is, in our relationship, its he who can not have sex without feelings. So it wouldn't work. So, I accept that and eat the same old cracker every day and add some of my own spices to it instead

I'm not sure what you're saying here; that polyamory relationships are meaningless?

Erm...No.
I started by quoting Firegarder, saying that he/she made an excellent point and continued with how I saw it personally in my relationship.
On the personal note, I started off by stating how I/we deal with potentially emotional relationships and continue with dismissing non emotional relationships.