Love: The EXTENDED DISCUSSION

What is love?

Is there such thing as a one and only or can you ROMANTICALLY LOVE more then one person?

What does it take for one to love another?

Are there any limits in love (sexuallity, species, age, looks, etc)

EDIT:

Is love all Chemical or spiritual?

Please keep this a discussion ><;

i believe in love. as you can from my avatar and sig (its pretty obvious) that i'm in love.

What is love?
Is there such thing as a one and only or can you ROMANTICALLY LOVE more then one person?
i believe theres the one and only. people fall in love more than once, but theres the attraction love and romantic love, and the one and only is the romantic love. it usually depends on the person, you dont know if you have, or ever will have, your true love. and usually people find out about there true love when it too late. like with widows, when one dies the other, if its your true love, will die withen a short amount of time because of a broken heart. but theres also the feeling of knowing you cant live without them.

What does it take for one to love another?
you need to not focus in a sexual way. love isnt just about sex, you need to see someone for who they are and their personality because thats whats gonna matter in the long run. people focusing on looks and sexs and not personality is probally the number one reason people end up getting a divorce.

Are there any limits in love (sexuallity, species, age, looks, etc)

i dont think there should be limits (if its human, you gotta be the same species people).

Is love all Chemical or spiritual?
i think its both. the chemical reaction gives us the sense of pleasure of being with the person, but spirtual is knowing the person is alive and healthy and wanting, not matter what, for them to be happy (another thing people dont do or understand that leads to divorce)

loves a really tricky subject X)

Love is only CHEMICAL. Biology process make u want to have sex with other person for have childrens-thats all.
I don't belive in spiritual love.

I think you can romantically love more than one person.
But people can confuse love and lust.
Are there any limits in love (sexuallity, species, age, looks, etc)
They say love knows no limits. But then again, people can confuse love and lust, so you could be making the biggest mistake of your life.
Animals can't consent, so there's different species out.
Underage kids don't know exactly what they're letting themselves in for, so that's a no way.
But if both people are over-age, consent and are happy about everything, I don't see why they shouldn't be in love or get married or whatever.
Looks, age and sexuality shouldn't really limit love.

romantically loving someone is easilly confused with lust,

i think yoo can love more than one person at once but on different levels, i dont thtink yoo can love two people romantically at once.

dark.emo.sian:

romantically loving someone is easilly confused with lust,

i think yoo can love more than one person at once but on different levels, i dont thtink yoo can love two people romantically at once.

yes you can, but thats cheating. both of your statements confirm that.
::MY VIEWS ON LOVE::
I do think there is such thing as love. its what you feel most when you're away from each other. i do think there is a certain boundary according to age and species. obviously you cant fall romantically in love with an elephant as in the same way a 86 year old cannot romantically love a 17 year old or vice versa. i think that a maximum age difference is something like 9-10 years, any higher than that its possible but its saying that a 20 year old can be in love with a 30 year old and i find that unreasonable. i think that love can happen to anyone at any age, though people are older tend to be more responsible.

LoversHeartDisease:

What is love?

Is there such thing as a one and only or can you ROMANTICALLY LOVE more then one person?

What does it take for one to love another?

Are there any limits in love (sexuallity, species, age, looks, etc)

EDIT:

Is love all Chemical or spiritual?

Please keep this a discussion ><;

Love is an attraction between two things. Not magnetic. I think you can love more than one person. It takes something special to love someone. Limits are: Sexuality? Definitely. Species? Yes. Age? Somewhat. Like a 13-year-old and a 90-year old wouldn't work. Looks, no. I'm ugly! I think love is somewhat chemical and somewhat spiritual.

Im taking a crack at my own question.

1-Is there such thing as a one and only or can you ROMANTICALLY LOVE more then one person?

I feel like you can only love ONE person as per passionate romance goes. Otherwise, cheating would be ok, and monogamy would be useless.

2) Are there any limits in love (sexuallity, species, age, looks, etc)
Some people mentioned age. I actually know a few couples seperated by 40 years +, and they are different yes, but I think the maturity of one makes up for the other, and they seem to be good couples.


3) Is love all Chemical or spiritual?

I doubt everyday more that love is Chemical. I feel like there are Chemical aspect, such as sex and butterflies in your stomach, but..

In my own experience regarding love, I have been dedicated to the same person for 3 years now. We are actually not dating, and half of the time we HATE eachother, but despite this, if we are apart for too long, we start to ferociously miss eachother, and while both of us have both left old ex's in the dust, we can't shake eachother. Those things make me more believing in spiritual love.

http://www.telegraph.co.uk/health/main.jhtml?xml=/health/2005/01/12/hforget12.xml

-->What is love?
Love is like oxygen, love is a many splendid thing, love lifts you up, all you need is love!
Yea, sorry, but Moulin Rouge was the first thing I thought of there. Forgive me.
--Topic.
Ok, I think love is...an emotion. Like hate. Or jealousy. I think it's a deeper form of friendship. You can love someone without it being sexual, so it's not always a marriage/meaningful relationship deal. I think really, to drop a cynical note on out lovefest, that love is more of a product of commercialism. Like, "Show her you love her, buy her a diamond!" and all that other crap. But it's not even like that. It's a connection between people, not wallets.

-->Is there such thing as a one and only or can you ROMANTICALLY LOVE more then one person?
Well, it really depends on the definition of love that you follow. If you love someone now, and then DON'T love them in 5 months, did you ever love them at all. See? You can't define the boundaries of such a thing. I think that there is a person, eventually, for everyone, but it's not going to be your first love. You gotta lose it to realize it's wonder.

-->What does it take for one to love another?
Trust. Without trust, there is no love. (I think I'm quoting Moulin Rouge again, sorry) Communication, Friendship, Understanding.

Are there any limits in love (sexuallity, species, age, looks, etc)
Well, age obviously. There is going to be a maturity level that both people have to be on for the relationship to work. You can't expect a 27 year old to fall madly in love with a 15 year old, and it all work out. There is going to be a need for companionship. Something that someone of your own generation can give you. And obviously, a physical attraction is going to be there. I don't care what you say about inner beauty, if you don't think she's pretty, you're not going to even bother asking her out. She's gonna be that friend that will never be more than that. And so on and so forth.


-->Is love all Chemical or spiritual?
Love, in it's deepest form, is a connection of the soul. So, if you don't believe in souls, then yea, it's all chemical.
I don't know, this is a tricky one.

Love isn't real. All it is, is chemicals in your body creating phermones/lust. So it is chemically. So I guess it is possible to 'love' more than one person, also attraction is unlimited to age, sex, gender, ect. It's all DNA related.

G-Rad:

Love isn't real. All it is, is chemicals in your body creating phermones/lust. So it is chemically. So I guess it is possible to 'love' more than one person, also attraction is unlimited to age, sex, gender, ect. It's all DNA related.

I really disagree. I love my grandma, but I'm not lusting after her. Love doesn't have to be regarding two people who are romanticaly attracted to each other, it can refer to lots of things.

I think true love is never restricted by looks, because that's lust. For example, there's this boy who claims to 'love me' but he doesn't even know me. He saw a picture of me. Love isn't to do with an image, it's to do with people.

pirate wifey:

I really disagree. I love my grandma, but I'm not lusting after her. Love doesn't have to be regarding two people who are romanticaly attracted to each other, it can refer to lots of things.

I think true love is never restricted by looks, because that's lust. For example, there's this boy who claims to 'love me' but he doesn't even know me. He saw a picture of me. Love isn't to do with an image, it's to do with people.

If everyone in the world was blind, it wouldn't matter how beautiful you were. It's really not a mattr of lust. When you love someone that you have sex with, it's not a matter of sexual drive, although that helps. It's more of a connection.
Loving someone you've never met is impossible, since love is a deep friendship. You can love your mother, but unless you're Oedipus, you're not feeling sexy about it at all. It's not just chemical.

i think that you can only love, romantically, one person. if you feel that you love another one, that's just confusion. maybe what you feel for the other person is just an infatuation.

i don't know what it takes to love one another... sorry

maybe love has no limits but just like what Girl next door said, you've got to love the same species. if you are so "in" to the person you like to the point that your stalking him/her and keeping a lock of his/her hair or whatever, that's not love, it's either obsession or lust.

is it possible to love but not be a lover?

^if you truly love someone, you love them as a friend before they become your lover, cause 'lover' is someone you love and have sex with.

love is basically a friendship that grows into more. not that whole 'love at first sight' crap.

thank you. that really settled my mind

Is there a such thing as love? I didn't believe in it, until I met someone who changed my entire outlook on it. But the sad thing is, many people confuse love and lust, and a lot of times thats how people get hurt.

Can you see that part of them that no one else can see?
Do you not care what people say or think of you being with them?
Do you enjoy talking to them, even if it's just for a short minute?
Can they make you laugh or smile at any given moment?
Do you not care what they look like?

i don't think anyone really knows... as for the chemical/spiritual thing, i think that's really up to the person...

just throwing it out there, but did you know that when you lose your virginity, the bond you make with that person is stronger than any other bond you will ever make? (I'm not making this up. it's been scientifically proven.) it's true. the chemicals in your brain will never let you feel exactly the same way about anyone ever again... that's why my advice is to choose wisely...