Divorce

lovecan'tsaveyou:

The only thing that drives me crazy about divorce is that everyone seems to think if you come from a "broken home" you'll never have a successful marriage of your own. My mother is in the midst of her fourth marriage (there was also a long-term engagement between marriages 2 and 3), and it's on shaky ground (because of the little matter of his recent meth bust). I always thought I would never marry because she was proof that love wasn't enough; however, I ended up getting married at 18 to my high school sweetheart. After five-and-a-half years, we're still completely mad for each other, and I can't even imagine divorcing him.

I never thought I'd get married either, but I head over heels crazy for [and marrying] my girlfriend.

^ Congratulations! I hope the two of you find as much happiness as Nathan and I have (same for your brother and his girlfriend, Social Suicide).

Side note: Druscilla, I just read your new story and it's great.

lovecan'tsaveyou:

^ Congratulations! I hope the two of you find as much happiness as Nathan and I have (same for your brother and his girlfriend, Social Suicide).

Side note: Druscilla, I just read your new story and it's great.

That, um, brother/Social Suicide thing was directed at me, was it?

druscilla_nesser:

That, um, brother/Social Suicide thing was directed at me, was it?

Haha, no, I was wishing you and your girlfriend luck; and I was also wishing luck to the brother of the girl above you, and his girlfriend. Sorry that was unclear.
And so I'm not spamming: Divorce is hard on everyone involved, but so is staying in a bad marriage.

i really think people should be more cautious before they get married. I think that divorce can be necesary in some cases. But if there was children in the family the children are really hurt

about 9yrs ago my parents seperated and both sides of the family fell apart and my mum would say mean stuff bout my dad to my little brother and when he got older he didnt want to know mmy dad. it was really upsetting

Devorce is hard, but not devorcing is harder

yea thats true

Divorce, I can dig that scene.

People just don't respect marriage as much as they used to.

52% of marriages end in divorce.
That's more than friggin' half.

It's a real pain to get through, but I feel as if I'm ultimatly better for the experience.
A real character builder, so to speak.

divorce fucks up kids.
it really does.
before the split and living in such an unstable enfovirement (sp?) really sucks
parents constatly yelling at one another INFRONT of little children (ex my 7 year old brother had to witness my parents trashing each other and cussing each other out) now i have to protect my baby brother
i dont want him exposed at such a young age.
but in a case like that the parents should split so that their kids wont have to go threw hell everyday

I think divorce can be a good thing or a bad thing.
If the kid realizes the problem going on and is an age where they can understand the reason behind it, then I think it could be a good thing, especially if they dislike one parent for something. They always have the other parent.
If the kid doesn't see the problem and thinks their parents are happy together and they get divorced, then yes, it could mess the kid up.
Little kids having their parents divorce is usually hard, especially with yelling and everything. But after the divorce, there is no yelling. So it could be good for the kid to not have all the yelling and fighting going on in their house.
And sometimes, the kid wishes their parents would get divorced, just so the fighting would stop.
So I think it depends on the kid and the situation, it's not just saying that divorce is bad for the kids or good for the kids.

bleedingonthefloorxx:

divorce fucks up kids.
it really does.
before the split and living in such an unstable enfovirement (sp?) really sucks
parents constatly yelling at one another INFRONT of little children (ex my 7 year old brother had to witness my parents trashing each other and cussing each other out) now i have to protect my baby brother
i dont want him exposed at such a young age.
but in a case like that the parents should split so that their kids wont have to go threw hell everyday

it doesn't always fuck up kids.
Look at me: my parents fought all my life, and finally got divorced when I was 5.
all I do have to say is that my brother had it the toughess. That's only because he was 13 when it happened and he had no guy in the family after my dad left.

But it did help my family.
Most likely if my parents weren't divorced my brother probably wouldn't be here now. He's always hated my dad and can't live with him.
My sister is completely fine. She was 15 when it all happened.

also: I get alot of story inspiration 'cause of my family situation.
I actually like just living with my mom & seeing my dad everyother weekend.
I could never live with him, though

My parents are divorced, only its a diffrent situation from normal divorces. I go back and forth between my parents houses everyday. (ex, monday w/ dad, tuesday w/ mom, wednesday w/ dad, thursday w/ mom, etc. )
My dad lives in one town and my mom the other, i go to school in the town my mom lives in because ive gone to school there my whole life. I see my dad more than my mom which surprises some people, i also have a better connection with my dad, but dont get me wrong i love my mom.
Im an only child and the divorce didnt "fuck me up". Im completly happy with the situation. I wouldn't want to have my parents stay together for me, my life would be a lot worse if i had to see my parents fighting all the time.
In most cases, i think its best for the child if the parents get a divorce if their not happy.

i agree, i hate it when people marry too young then 10 years leter get divorced and sy to you " well i just didnt luv ur father like i did when we got married" err my parents are divorced and i hate it because my step mom is a frickin snob!

agreed
my step dad is a jerk

My parents are still together and i know how lucky i am.
alot of my friends parents have broke up and they get along okay with both parents... Other hate there mum/dad for personal reasons which i dont inteed to poke my nose into.
2 examples i have one is my best friend.. here mu and dad brokw up when she was 3, since then her mum has got engaged again and she looves her mums boyfriend.. she has even called him dad sometimes by accident. she goes to her dad loads and looves him loads aswell and he has new girlfriend who she is fine with. she is perfectly happy with her double life.
But my second one is my boyfriend, he lives with his mum and hates his dad because he was such a jerk. he sees his dad most weekends but doesnt like him, his dad has a new wife and they have had another son, he likes his stepmum and half brother but still hates his dad for reasons i dont need to tell. but his mum has a boyfriend who he also hates.

so personalyl i think divorce is fine if you have a valid reason ... some people divorce after the tinyest of arguements .. others stay together through the biggest of arguements.
I know this because one of my old friends dad held a knife against her mums throat and threw her down the stairs because he used to drink alot, since then he has changed and that proves that it is poosible and they are still together even after all that.

I just thought i would tell you some stuff that i know.. oh and btw it is a fact that 1 in 3 marraiges end in divorce. i was shocked at that.

Yeah,totally.If you ahte eachother staying married is not gonna help but I think you should think about what you're doing before you get married, if things just don't work out that's understandable

I didn't read every posts, but i will add my bit.
Some times it's better for the kids if the parents whoa re fighting to split up. yeah, I have done that.
I would much rather leave him than to havew my kids see that.