Divorce

Lots of people say stuff like..."back in the 1800's, kids got married when they were 15, and stayed that way to the same person, faithfully, until they turned 105"...all that crap. I figure, divorce would've happened just as often back in the day if it was accepted as a normality, like it is today.

Too bad, though, it's just getting to be too accepted. It's like a person'll say "k, I think I'll get married today." so they do, and then they divorced within 3 weeks. That's bullshit. A marriage is supposed to be special.

Queen of Apology:

I think if a couple is unhappy, and can't salvage their mairrage, then yes it's okay.

I agree with that.
But it's sometimes hard to differenciate between actual marital problems and little tiffs.

i rather they divorce than stay together suffer. but isnt it better if they don't marry in the first place? then the children wouldn't have to go through everything? *talking about my friend's parents my parents are very united in giving me hell.

i think that kids would rather be living in two peaceful homes, rather than come from a broken one

i agree that it is better to live in the seprate homes but after living with both my parents for 11 years together the suddenly moving and only seeing my dad on certain days is hard but atleast if you fuck up with one parent you can stay with the other. right?

I think that if someone wants to get divorced they have the right to.
Sometimes it needs to happen.
I know it had to happen in my parents case.
They were really unhappy and my dad kept taking it out on my sisters and I.

I disagree with whoever said/thinks that people aren`t being cautious enough when marrying. I`m sure that NO ONE thinks they are going to wind up getting a divorce. I agree that marriage is something that shouldn`t be taken lightly, but people and circumstances do change. Everyone should be entitled to a divorce. Sometimes it is for the better. I know for my parents that was the case. I`m glad they got a divorce when they did, because now they are both happily remarried. I feel badly that for awhile, so many people were stuck in unhealthy relationships because divorced was frowned upon in our society.

some people, i think, rush into marriages too fast, and they don't take the time you should be (dating...or w/e) taking to talk about themselves, and seeing if they are right for each other.

but people should still be able to divorce.

Some people just fall out of love... it happened with my parents

people need to choose who they wanna marry more carefully.

My parents arn't even married, let alone divorced, but even if they were married and decided to get divorced, I wouldn't mind. My dad can be a bit of a nuisance and my parents often argue. I think, if a parent explains to the child about how the divorce is for the best, the kid won't feel so unwanted

my parents divorced when i was 7. it was horrible at the time, but it was a blessing in disguise i think. i cant imagine growing up with them screaming at each other all the time.

violentposer:

my parents divorced when i was 7. it was horrible at the time, but it was a blessing in disguise i think. i cant imagine growing up with them screaming at each other all the time.

Same story with me....now my dad has remarried and my mum is to remarry but i dont mind the situation cos it could have been a whole lot worse if they (my parents) were still together

I haven't been in situations with divorces that turned out in any positive way. But I like to think sometimes it's better because the couple can be happier and if there is children involved they don't have to live with their parents fighting all the time

.I also think it depends on how old the children are when the parents divorce.
My friends parents got divorced when he was 4 and he doesn't remember them fighting a lot, but I was 13-17 when my parents were going through their divorce and I remember how bad the fighting was and sometimes still is.

Well of corse people should think things through before getting married. But you can't predict what the future will bring. What happens is your spouse cheats, or kills someone? I know I wouldn't give them a second chance.

What if they're abusive? I wouldn't want to stay with them.

What if you stop loving each other?

There are endless reasons to get a divorce, and endless consequences. But all in all, I'm for it, because without it, how would the children turn out?

Growing up with nonstop bickering, your parents doing things just to spite the other. The huse would be full of tension, and it would screw the kid up for life, because they would grow up thinking that that's how marraige is supposed to work.

Basically, I'm for divorce, because without it, the kids get screwed up.

today, after years of unrest and bickering, moving in and out, falling outs and making ups, my parents announced that they were getting divorced.. i have a 7 year old brother that they havent told yet, and a 17 year old brother who thinks being affected is uncool.

its shit.

Shallow Grave:

Basically, I'm for divorce, because without it, the kids get screwed up.

yup.
My older brother and I would probably be more messed up than we are now.
and my sister would probably think she's all high and mighty since my dad babies her like she 3 when she's 23! though she doesn't like it that much...

^i am so sorry for you. I know how it feels my mother left my father for her girlfriend. I was so hurt and angry when it happened, but now i see that they were very unhappy they just hid it from me.

i'm ok with it now but it takes time to adjust to.

My parents aren't divorced, but they're separated. And i think it's great, because i don't like my father.
I hope you understand me. My English is not good. (I'm from Russia)