Child Abuse

I don't think anyone on INO is FOR child abuse.
Instead of just posting "Against", share your opinions. How can we stop this? What are the long term effects of child abuse? Do you know anyone that used to be abused but got him/herself out of it?

Obsessed.:

I am extremely against it, I hate it when my friends tell me they've been hit, and there's nothing I can do.

There's ALWAYS things you can do!

Childhelp USA National Child Abuse Hotline

1-800-422-4453

Each day in the United States, more than 3 children die as a result of child abuse in the home. In 1998, an estimated 1,100 children died of abuse and neglect-an average of more than 3 children per day. (source: Childhelp USA)





There are only three things on this earth that can get me so pissed off that I turn red and steam comes out of my ears. Animal abuse, child abuse and rape. I do not tolerate any kind of abuse in my life, whether it's mental, verbal or physical. I don't accept people yelling at children or animals.

Here's a story from my life.

I used to baby sit my husbands cousin, let's call him "Brian". He's almost four years old, and there's definately something wrong with him. Brians mom did coke and meth when she was pregnant with him, so there are parts of his brain that aren't fully developed. He has ADD and anger issues, and he's still in diapers. Brian often refuses to eat, he throws things around him and curses at everyone. Brians dad told me to slap Brian or spank him when this happens. I absolutely refused. Instead, I tried rewarding Brian whenever he did good. I spent a lot of time with him and I gave him as much attention as he wanted. When Brian did something really bad, I would put him in a corner. Sort of a "naughty corner", where he would have to sit, facing the wall, for atleast five minutes until he was calm again. After three months of doing this, I noticed some really awesome improvements. Brian started using the toilet, he would eat his food without being told to and he listened more.

And then Brians father got back together with his ex girlfriend. She's a monster. She treats Brian like a dog. She constantly tells him to do stuff. Like "Brian, sing that song!!" or "Brian, tell daddy he's a fart!!" or "Brian, do that dance I taught you!!". She spanks him, she slaps him, and she yells at him, constantly. If he doesn't eat, she yells "BRIAN, eat your food or I will come over there and spank the shit out of you!" If he plays too roughly she yells "BRIAN, I'm gonna lock up all your toys and you'll never get them back!!"
What she does to him negates everything I tried for three months. He did number 2 on his bed, he pee's his pants, he screams again, throws stuff around him and refuses to eat.
And this pisses me off, cause I know that what he needs is some good attention, and someone who's nice and calm with him, and doesn't tell him what to do all the time, as if he was a puppet.

Don't wait for something REALLY serious to happen, take action now.
Tell your parents what your friend is going through, and ask them to call the number if you don't want to. Make sure your friend never gets abused again.

Good luck.

My brother is beaten by my father. It never really stopped, the police couldnt, that dude with the bow-tie from child services couldnt, nobody. It has really screwed my brother up. He has serious anger issues and has been in Holly Hills because he got worked up and kicked his ex girlfriend (but she diserved it for being a bitch to him). He could be a normal, non-violent person if my dad never hit him.

Just for the record childline in England is: 0800 1111
If you need to use it then please do!
It is free and confidential.

And if you want to read a book about a true story (about the author) then I recomend "The Little Prisoner".
It's about a young girl who is abused by her step dad.

When I was a child my dad would hit me and call me names whenever he was mad at me. How we can stop them? Imprison the abusers. FOREVER!Lock them in a cell and throw away the key. It's what they deserve for doing something like that to the ones who can't defense themselves.

gia:

When I was a child my dad would hit me and call me names whenever he was mad at me. How we can stop them? Imprison the abusers. FOREVER!Lock them in a cell and throw away the key. It's what they deserve for doing something like that to the ones who can't defense themselves.

Im sorry you dad treated you that way. I think it would be great if we could imprison them, but the police refuse to do anything unless they see it happen, or at least thats how the crooked cops are here.

voodoo doll:

And if you want to read a book about a true story (about the author) then I recomend "A Child Called It".

I've heard of that book; It's supposed to be terribly sad.

There's always something you can do. I think if you know a friend and they hint around that they are getting hit. Look in the phone book, internet, anything and call someone that can stop it. They might go away for awhile but it's better then them eventually dying from a hit to hard to the head.

You think she "became" a lesbian after being abused?

Yara:

You think she "became" a lesbian after being abused?

No..after being raped... Which was part of the abuse.. It was by her dad.

Obsessed.:

Yara:

You think she "became" a lesbian after being abused?

No..after being raped... Which was part of the abuse.. It was by her dad.

Ohmygod.

That's revolting. He should be locked up.

I consider myself lucky. My brother's sexually abused me for a few years, and tried to rape me, but never did manage to actually do it.

Then I look at stories like that.

And it all seems to pull into perspective.

I'm 100% against it. It messes kids up. I was beaten for 10 years of my life and now I have anger problems, have to go to therapy, and have permanent scars. Anyone who beats their children are cruel and I hope they all die.

I've never been hit by either one of my parents, but I've talked to people who have been. It's scary.
I was at the mall when I was about 12, and I saw a woman beating her son, who was maybe two. It wasn't just a spanking either. It was the worst thing I had ever witnessed. The security guards came and took her away. I don't know what happened after that, but I hope they took her kids away.
Some people just disgust me.

I live in a sometimes violent family.

I've learnt basic staff fighting and knives etc because that was what my brother and I did when we were younger. I have an elastic gun etc etc and I know how to use all of them. I've gotten reccomendations to be a cop or something like that because I can do hand to hand combat, knives, guns, and everything else. I've become violent. And I hate it all. I've gotten beat up, and I don't want to live here.

I'm one-hundred percent against it.

I have never enjoyed my childhood because of abuse. My step-mother abused the shit out of my for 9 or 10 years. She has been embarrassing me in front of my friends and is physically hurting me.

I'm glad that we don't live in the same house anymore. I want to let my anger go but it won't. I'm going to get vengeance someday.

one of my friends dad was a rich doctor and drank and came home and beat his daughter and one day he showed up and about 15 guys were there so he couldnt do shit to her so we packed her clothes and we left