Suicide and Self harm
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Faye Merci Salute You in Your Grave Age: - Gender: - Posts: 4473 | Scars On Broadway: You've lost a friend to suicide and you still can't see from their point of view? Sure, it's annoying when kids cut for attention. But there are tons more of people who cut and attempt suicide because they're actually depressed and they actually think that's how to solve their problems. It's really easy to lump them in with everyone else who does it just for attention, but you've got to understand they're not the same. "i don't have anything against those who do." And yet you continue to state that you think self harm and suicide are "rediculous". It's ridiculous. |
Toybox Trash Killjoy Age: 28 Gender: Female Posts: 42 | Faye Merci: i've been in their place before and that's what makes me so annoyed by it. when they're that depressed and thinking about suicide, as hard as it might be, they should get help. even if it is hard to admit to that. it's selfish when someone commits suicide and has to leave everyone behind that loves him. maybe i don't like it because i've seen it happen so many times it's just annoying. |
ricky braddy. Bleeding on the Floor Age: - Gender: - Posts: 1813 | ^ When people feel depressed or suicidal, getting help is probably one of the last things they think about. They just want to get rid of the pain, and it's a lot easier to take the easy way out even if it means doing something "selfish" or "pointless" (like self-injuring or committing suicide). And it may not seem like that big of a deal, but getting help is actually very scary. Opening up to someone and talking about your feelings is incredibly hard to do, believe it or not, especially when it comes to issues like suicide and self-injury. People these days aren't exactly understanding or sympathetic, so it's scary. It's obviously a lot better if you get help, but when you're in such an unstable mental and emotional condition you don't think those things through. |
blow Bleeding on the Floor Age: - Gender: Female Posts: 1137 | riley emminger.: If everyone always took the easy way the world would have been destroyed a long time ago. Quote People are a lot more understanding than you think. It really doesn't matter if it's scary or hard it's the right thing to do. |
Toybox Trash Killjoy Age: 28 Gender: Female Posts: 42 | ^exactly. when my best friend started drinking to cover everything and having sex and burning himself he went for help because he was scared for himself and wanted to live. i don't think people understand where i'm coming from though. |
blow Bleeding on the Floor Age: - Gender: Female Posts: 1137 | ^I think I get you, maybe. |
Faye Merci Salute You in Your Grave Age: - Gender: - Posts: 4473 | Eponine: It doesn't matter if it's scary? I promise you, fear can keep you from doing everything. It can change your life. It isn't something to be laughed at. Or dismissed. |
blow Bleeding on the Floor Age: - Gender: Female Posts: 1137 | Faye Merci: So you should let fear rule your life? If everyone did that we would be nowhere. I'm not dismissing it or laughing at it, but at some point you have to make the decision to help yourself or just give up on life. In the long run it doesn't matter because even it it's scary getting help is the best thing for you. |
Faye Merci Salute You in Your Grave Age: - Gender: - Posts: 4473 | Eponine: Oh no no, I think you should go for help. Most definitely. But I'm saying it's so, so hard, and I'm talking from a personal p.o.v. It's painful to tell as well as to hide it. |
xxWolvenPrincessxx Joining The Black Parade Age: 35 Gender: Female Posts: 200 | People cut for alot of reason, whether it be pressure, depression or just the fact that they can't handle anything anymore. |
Go fuck yourself Devil's Got Your Number Age: 30 Gender: Female Posts: 37823 | Punk Russia:I actually agree with you. I honestly don't find it selfish if when your doing it you mean it, it can be a sign of help. It isn't the best answer, but when your desprete, sometimes you just need to get it all out in some way, I do not condone cutting either, but as a former addict I can empathize with an individual who is suffering. What I really hate is the girls that cut once, then run around and shove it in everyone's face and scream "I'm emo" I end up very apathetic towards them. Mindfuck:that maybe, but if your suicidal, why would you have regard for yourself? |
Mindfuck Always Born a Crime Age: - Gender: Female Posts: 5614 | My Dear Delirious: What do you mean by this exactly? I'm a little confused. My Dear Delirious: I don't think they would, personally. "Their own life" included the person in that, because they are the centre of their lives at that moment. |
Go fuck yourself Devil's Got Your Number Age: 30 Gender: Female Posts: 37823 | Mindfuck: like I said, if your not doing it to basically show it off or to be an "attention seeker" and I'm not saying that everyone who cuts is looking for attention, I think the people who really mean it are the ones who don't tell anyone and keep it secret, I did that from age 9-12. Then someone saw the scars. It was my silent cry for help, and part of me wanted it to always keep silent about it, the other part of me wanted someone to notice and help me with my addiction. By the time someone had finally noticed, I had scars covering my arms and legs, I had a few on my boob, some on my stomach, about 2 on my neck, some behind my ear, basically anywhere. they happened to notice one on my wrist which that was pretty well blened with my skin tone (my skin is very white and yet also somewhat rosy so scars can blend pretty well). Mindfuck:yes, we all are the center of our lives in some way, and when we are in pain how are we suppose to handle that |
Mindfuck Always Born a Crime Age: - Gender: Female Posts: 5614 | ^Not cutting, that's for sure. There are probably people out there who feel cutting is helping them, but long term it is only hindering them. There is always an alternate help route(s) to cutting. But whether or not people use the alternate route(s) is their choice. One of the alternate help routes for cutting is telling someone, getting help, talking it out. I would say most people who cut don't use this, because they are ashamed in some way. My stance is: if they really had any regard for them and their own life, then they would eventually recognise they have a problem with cutting and would eventually seek help. Just like anyone with an addiction or a problem. |
blow Bleeding on the Floor Age: - Gender: Female Posts: 1137 | ^I agree completely. My Dear Delirious: You can self harm for those 'reasons', but it is still selfish. The point is to cause pleasure, and I think it's selfish to self harm because those who do it, do it with so much disregard to the fact that it is unhealthy, and (as mindfuck has said) disregard for their life. That's not to say that I don't empathize with those who self harm, I do, but from a completely objective point of view I believe that it is selfish. |
HEY AMY Salute You in Your Grave Age: 33 Gender: Female Posts: 3503 | ^ But there are so many things that everyone does that is selfish. There are probably things you do that people find selfish. I know you find self harm selfish, but personally, I can't really see how it is. Because the self harmer usually doesn't fully realise what is happening. Couldn't putting on make up be selfish? If someone who self harms does it because they want to make themself feel good and give them pleasure, and someone puts make up on because it makes them feel good and they get pleasure out of it, then surely it would be the same thing. |
blow Bleeding on the Floor Age: - Gender: Female Posts: 1137 | AmyPoptart: They may not 'realize' what is happening but underneath all the confusing emotions and everything that is going on they are making a purely selfish decision. Those who self harm aren't bad people, it's just the action itself that is so selfish. Quote Except that make up can't kill you and isn't detrimental to your health at all. Obviously people do lots of selfish things everyday, but it's the fact that self harming is not only selfish, but so incredibly bad for you. I think you have to have an extreme level of selfishness (even if you don't realize it) to harm yourself. |
Go fuck yourself Devil's Got Your Number Age: 30 Gender: Female Posts: 37823 | Mindfuck:I aree with that, I don't praise cutters, it is very shameful, but they shouldn't be just turned away. There is something better to do, the alternatives are better then doing heroine too, but there are still people who do it. But if your so ashamed of something, why would you just want to bring it out in the open? Now a days, you say "I'm not feeling to well" and people taunt you for being "emo" and if you heard about the riots down in Mexico, it's not always the safest to be labeled emo, trust me, its not fun to go to school and try to live your lifew with that label hanging over you. But by to my piont, it's kinda like when you were little and you dropped something and it broke, it could be on accident, but do you really want to go up to your parents and get spanked, or would u rather try and hide it, even if theres a possibilty of it being found out later and your punishment being even more |
Mindfuck Always Born a Crime Age: - Gender: Female Posts: 5614 | My Dear Delirious: You wouldn't. Which is why I stated that most people who cut probably don't want to get alternate help to cutting. In the end, the person who is cutting needs to end the cycle themselves if they choose to keep quiet about it. |
Go fuck yourself Devil's Got Your Number Age: 30 Gender: Female Posts: 37823 | Mindfuck:well, with every addiction, no with everything we create excuses, even to ourselves to keep doing it, so what should be done to help influence a person to break the cycle themselves? |
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