Suicide and Self harm
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| Frozen Jazz Hands  Age: 30 Gender: Female Posts: 376 | I would never do it after my mum told me what it did to her. ^ Lemon is right though. I had my friends asking me if my mum was suicidal! |
| chillpill Always Born a Crime  Age: - Gender: Female Posts: 5640 | Broken Dream: Who in their right mind think's that suicide is a good way of dealing with your life? Better options: #1 [The Best Option In The World When Considering Suicide]: Get help. Parents, teachers, friends, councelors, someone who you trust. |
| poison and kerosene Motor Baby  Age: 33 Gender: Female Posts: 844 | Lemon.: yeah i agree...most people who cut try and hide their cuts and scars so people dont see tham but if someone accidently saw thier arm they go all crazy about how you either want attention or ask you soo many question and even call you "emo" and that gets me ticked off. |
| matfew churlz sanduz Shotgun Sinner  Age: 32 Gender: Female Posts: 9716 | So, the easy solution to that problem would be... Stop cutting. I don't see the point in cutting, other then attention. It's not ignorant to say all cutters cut for attention, that's absurd. If you didn't want anyone to find out, why would you do it in the first place? You want to know what ticks me off? When people who cut do it because they 'have nothing else to do to deal with the pain.' or '... did it accidently once and now I can't stop.' That's bull. If you honestly wanted to stop, didn't want anyone to find out about it and hated people calling you names suck as "Attention Seaker" "Emo" and "Cutter", There is a quick and easy solution; Stop harming yourself. Read a book, go for a walk, talk to someone, write your feelings down. Just don't take it out on your own body. It never did anything to you. |
| the original JULES Demolition Lover  Age: - Gender: Female Posts: 19598 | If you cut, no matter what the reason, imagine yourself in years time. Say you want a family, you want children. Your children are grown up now, and one of them is having a tough time - might be school, bullying, etc. They come to you for help. They ask you how you dealt with it, when you were their age. Are you going to tell your child to cut their wrists? Are you going to encourage them to do what you did? How are you going to feel when you can't help your child, because you never learned to help yourself the proper way? Sometimes we often think about who it's affecting RIGHT NOW. But the problem never goes away. The issue of upsetting or affecting someone never leaves. Because the minute you've self harmed, you've harmed a hell of a lot of other relationships that might exist now, that have existed, or will exist in the future. |
| rachi_left4deadx_x Motor Baby  Age: 30 Gender: Female Posts: 802 | Ok so I have experience in this subject as I used to self harm. Is not that I found it cool to self harm is that my life was so fucked up it helped. I look back now and think how could it relieve pain. I read in one of my journals from when I cut: "At first it hurt then my anger began to build up and the pain went away. The blood washed all my troubles away with it." I totally agree that some people say they cut when they don't. All I can say to them people is why would you want to lie about that? Its not clever. i totally regret starting to cut because the scars will be there forever. I will always be the girl who cut and thats not a good name to own. |
| SAAMI Killjoy  Age: - Gender: Female Posts: 18 | I think that whoever said that thing about 7 out of 10 is right. Thing is, it's not really worth to ignore someone who selfharms because you think they may just be talkning. Its better to try and be there for him or her, then to later find out that he or she actually was deeply depressed. I have a friend, a close friend, who self-harms. At the beginning, he really did it just for the attention. Okay, he felt like shit, but still, he talked more than he actually cut. But now.. he's completly diffrent. He just can't stop it when he starts, and it scares the hell out of me. I used to ( i don't, anymore, and i'm so god damn proud over myself) and I know how it feels like, so I just can't help being worried. I belive that if you want to help someone who cuts, or just feels bad, you have to be there for them. Make them trust you. Tell them how much they mean to you, but don't lie. Just be there, a phonecall away, and listen. That's really the best you can do. |
| S713 Joining The Black Parade  Age: 33 Gender: Male Posts: 225 | Shaking Ella's Hold: Why would anybody speed on the highway if they didnt want the cops to find out, or cheat on an exam if they didnt want the teacher to find out, or sneak out of the house to go to your friends house if you didnt want your parents to find out..... Your first point isnt valid. People do things all the time and hope that nobody finds out. When is the last time somebody robbed a bank thinking "I sure hope those cops find me, prison sounds so much fun." Also, saying that if they just wanted to stop, then they could, is just like telling somebody that they can just stop using heroin cold turkey. People that dont do it to fit in with their friends or be "cool" will not be able to do that in most cases, and usually when they try, they just end up being worse then they were before. |
| asha shake. Devil's Got Your Number  Age: 35 Gender: Female Posts: 36414 | Broken Dream: No, it isn't. There are a million other, much better, ways of dealing with "bad depressing lives", ways that don't hurt all the people around you, ways that mean you can turn your life around. Suicide is terrible. It doesn't just effect the person who kills themself. It effects everybody in their life. One of my best friends killed himself almost 8 months ago, & I still can't deal with the fact that he is gone. I still cry whenever I think of him, or when I hear certain songs that he loved. He didn't deserve to go out of the world in that way. I'm not saying that suicide is the "easy" way out, or the "cowards" way out, because I know that it would take a great deal of determination to actually go through with it. But honestly, it is a terrible way to die. People never know for sure why you did it, and the effects are so long lasting. |
| bloodredruby69 Banned  Age: 35 Gender: Female Posts: 8293 | If someone really has no other options, I think that it's selfish to try to make them stay here, when it's really their choice to begin with. |
| asha shake. Devil's Got Your Number Age: 35 Gender: Female Posts: 36414 | But there are always other options. |
| bloodredruby69 Banned Age: 35 Gender: Female Posts: 8293 | It really all depends upon your perspective. If you don't think you have a way out, you make a way out. If you don't think you can talk to anyone, you don't talk to anyone. After a while, some people really only have one option. |
| matfew churlz sanduz Shotgun Sinner Age: 32 Gender: Female Posts: 9716 | LVFD: That is nothing like what I'm talking about. Harming yourself is nothing like robbing a bank or speeding down the highway. I don't understand how you could possibly compare the two. And actually, you are wrong in saying that people don't rob banks or speed to get caught. Most people actually do speed and rob banks (since we are using these two law breaking activities) to get attention, weather it's good or bad attention. Subconsciously, that's the only reason why they do it. To be noticed. Studies have proven it. So yes, my point is in fact valid. People can, and have, quit heroin cold turkey. Sure, it's not done as often, but it's still done. Heroin in nothing like self harm. They are two totally different “coping” mechanisms. Cutting yourself is not nearly as bad as taking heroin, for starters, And why do people cut in the first place? TO BE NOTICED. TO BE RECOGNISED Why to people take heroin? TO FEEL BETTER ABOUT THEMSELVES. TO NUMB THE "PAIN" Can you see the difference? But, in saying that, it's not like I support the use of heroin either. But one simply cannot compare Self Harm to the use of Heroin. That would be the same as comparing a dog to a cat, if you will. |
| asha shake. Devil's Got Your Number Age: 35 Gender: Female Posts: 36414 | Shaking Ella's Hold: Exactly. No matter how hard people try to argue against that, I will never see how a person could intentionally harm themselves, yet not do it to get attention. Do they think that nobody will see the scars? that if people do see the scars that they will believe the cover stories these people make up? I'm sorry, but I think if people are saying that cutters don't do it for attention, they are naive. |
| Mud Really Not Okay Age: - Gender: Female Posts: 749 | But its just as big a problem, no matter what the reasoning. The only difference that makes is in the treatment or recovery. |
| oh how cliche;; Really Not Okay Age: 32 Gender: Male Posts: 656 | It's a permanent solution for a temporary problem. Even if it's cutting. The scars will be there forever. If someone has a problem with cutting I don't think they should go to a conselor. Who want's to talk to a complete stranger they just met about their life? I know I wouldn't...  |
| matfew churlz sanduz Shotgun Sinner Age: 32 Gender: Female Posts: 9716 | But sometimes it's better to talk to someone who doesn't know you, Rather then someone who knows everything about you, and may judge you. I wouldn't go to my school conselor, she knows shit all, But a trained professional, like a proper psychiatrist, is the way to go. I don't think people with depression or suicidal thoughts should rule out help from a trained professional. Friends can only do so much. |
| nina; Awake and Unafraid  Age: 34 Gender: Female Posts: 12993 | When you cut, the body releases a chemical that makes you feel better. And I think, If you've never been in that situation, when you've felt like cutting, don't say anything. Because you just.don't.know. That's why I'm keeping my mouth shut. |
| poison and kerosene Motor Baby Age: 33 Gender: Female Posts: 844 | obviously some people just dont understand why people cut them selves. its pretty sad. and alot of cutters dont cut their arm but cut other places so people dont see them. soo yeah dnt think they do it for attention >.< |
| assiralc talc Really Not Okay Age: - Gender: - Posts: 684 | Shaking Ella's Hold: What makes you say that people who rob banks and people who use speed do it to be noticed? Have you considered the possibility that some people rob banks for the money? Because they can't pay the bills? I don't deny that there's also something about power involved in it; the thrill of large wads of cash got by threatening people with weapons; the glamour. But to say that they do it "to be noticed" is simplifying the issue. The fun isn't in getting caught; it's in nearly getting caught. And anyway, what studies prove it? Shaking Ella's Hold: There is something in the comparison. Whatever reasons people might have for taking heroin or for self-harming are irrelevant if an addiction starts. It's similar because many heroin users and many self-harmers are addicted to their form of abuse. Shaking Ella's Hold: Stating something in block capitals doesn't make it true. Shaking Ella's Hold: The feeling of being noticed is for some people a way of feeling better about themselves. And why do you put pain in quotation marks? Do you doubt that there are people in the world who feel pain? |
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