Teenagers
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make some noise; Jazz Hands Age: 32 Gender: Female Posts: 271 | |
tabitha Bleeding on the Floor Age: 45 Gender: Female Posts: 1831 | ^^ and nobody was. But I have actually read around these boards that kids today "have it so much harder than kids before", that "cutting is something new", that "parents can't imagine what we're going through" so on, so forth. You guys can't fathom living on a lard sandwich and wearing a potato sack to school -- it sounds like The Grapes of Wrath to you (assuming you've read it) and you know that people don't have to live like that, so you don't, you *can't* understand that problem. What I'm saying to you is that things like cutting and parental misunderstandings are nothing new, they're just new to you. So I've simply tried to explain that each generation has had trials, each generation comes with technology that the previous generation can't fathom, and yet the world keeps turning, people still live on. Personally I feel like my generational gap is one of the biggest. You guys have grown up with computers, you've always had the internet, you've always had boards like this to find solace and friends. I remember woking on first generation Apple computers, green screen with a floppy disk, and learning how to write programs in Basic. I remember the huge, room sized computers with punchcards that had to be used that operated on binary. The internet became popular when I was a senior in high school. My parents and grandparents don't understand a PC, they have a hard time with it, they think I'm spoiled because I can sit at a computer and within seconds have anything in the world at my fingertips. I remember the space program being everyone's dream, and I watched the Challenger explode as it lifted off and everyone's dreams deflate, and the years we stayed on the ground because we were afraid. I walked the bridge from the newspaper to the internet -- all in my teen years. We went from rotary phones to bluetooth cell phones, all in my lifetime. I can adapt, I was there when the discoveries were being made, I can make the leap from one to the other. My mother cannot type on a keyboard, my grandmother fiddles with a cell phone but doesn't really understand it. Being a teen is hard. We understand that. But what we are trying to get you to understand is that being an adult is hard too. We had a hard time as kids, the same as you do now. And 20 years from now your kids might be going through this and you'll try to do for them what we are trying to do for you. |
make some noise; Jazz Hands Age: 32 Gender: Female Posts: 271 | I personally, at least. don't think I have it any harder than any generation before me, and I certainly think there are many generations before me that had it much harder in many ways. But in today's teenager generation, there are more drug-related problems than there were 20 years ago, but on the other hand, we have things like cell phones and internet. These don't, however, help lessen the degree of our problems. That's like giving my neighbour a cell phone and saying "Well you have a lot of crap going on in your life right now, but it's not as bad now that you have a cell phone to help you deal with it." and that's a bunch of crap. I DO understand that being an adult is hard; they have it just a ba or worse than we as teens do. And I appriciate your attempts to get our ignorant population to understand more adult-related issues. |
tabitha Bleeding on the Floor Age: 45 Gender: Female Posts: 1831 | Nobody has called anyone here ignorant, and the thinly veiled sarcasm there is a little much and not at all appreciated. Drug related problems are nothing new. Have you heard about Woodstock, drug abuse during any of our country's many wars, the Just Say No initiative that was started in the 80s? The AIDS epidemic that took off in the late 70s and was the cornerstone of the movement to get people to not use intravenous drugs? LSD, mushrooms, pot, and cocaine have been around for a lot longer than recent memory. Opium/opiate abuse has been around since the 1600s or even earlier. There is an alarming trend in abusing prescription and OTC drugs in recent years, but things like huffing have been around since aerosol cans were invented. Child abuse has been rampant for generations as well. Music has been blamed for suicides and the decline of society since it became mainstream. Teen pregnacy wasn't invented in 2005. STDs have been around almost as long as people have been having sex. I could go on and on. For the last time: nobody is saying that being a teenager is a walk in the park; nobody has tried to trivialize real problems, and nobody has said that being an adult is better than being a teenager, or vice versa. We've reminisced a bit, yes, but in doing so shown you that we remember having those problems and try to tell you how we dealt with it when we were teens. We're trying to help you learn how to put your problems in perspective and get you to understand that learning how to deal with your problems now is going to affect how you solve problems as an adult, and that for every problem you have now, someone somewhere has lived through that problem and came out stronger for it. |
Person0001 Always Born a Crime Age: 43 Gender: Female Posts: 5099 | Vanya Hargreeves:Sorry I deleted my comment by accident. Look, I hated my teens. You couldn't pay me to go back to them again. The emotional highs and lows, and the awkwardness that I suffer from to this day were definitely magnified at that time by the forced socialization (and subsequent alienation) of the high school environment and the "tough love" that my parents bought into. Whoever dubbed high school "the best years of your life" certainly didn't go through the bullshit I did. I think that the well-meaning adults here are trying to teach you guys coping mechanisms for these very tumultuous times so that as adults, you will be better equipped to deal with what hits you, although no one is perfect. As Mom to a teenager, this is what worries me the most: that he could get caught up in something that will alter his life for the worse, because teens are both impressionable (the kid still in there) and angry (mostly the hormones) - not a good mix. |
make some noise; Jazz Hands Age: 32 Gender: Female Posts: 271 | tabitha- I actually wasn't trying to be sarcastic in reference to our 'ignorant' population, because a lot of the teenager population of the world is quite ignorant, myself included. I don't truly know what it's like to experience as much pain as many teenagers are faced with today. I also do realize that teenagers today are faced with many of the same struggles that the generation before was, [and my drug statement wasn't based on any fact, I take it back. x] I typed that while still half awake, horrible thing to do in the discussion forum.] and to both Deb and tabitha, I do realize that the adults are trying to offer support and help for the teenagers who are facing the same issues that they faced as teenagers, and I thanked them for that in my last post. |
tabitha Bleeding on the Floor Age: 45 Gender: Female Posts: 1831 | ^^ Thank you. I appreciate you clearing it up. I know things in print can be misinterpreted. I'm glad that you see what we are trying to do. |
Dir-en-grey Joining The Black Parade Age: 32 Gender: Female Posts: 231 | Well to me, alot of teens are judgemental and steriotypical. " never let them take you alive!" I always think about when people start talking. Honestly, don't let it get to you hun. Its you thats going to be overpowering them someday. |
sorta kinda. Salute You in Your Grave Age: 30 Gender: Female Posts: 2838 | I, personally, dislike teenagers as a group, even though I am one. Teenagers in my opinion thrive of gossip and drama, some are so full of themselves, they are so quick to act violent. Sometimes, 'Teenagers' is like my theme song, they really do scare the shit out of me. |
cherrryred Killjoy Age: 32 Gender: Female Posts: 6 | ^^ I 100% agree with you. God, I hate them so much. That's why High School is so freaking hard for me. Because I have to be around like 1500 of them all day every day. It's like...really? Is this retarded drama necessary? |
Frank Fuckin Iero Killjoy Age: 29 Gender: Female Posts: 24 | I myself am 14, so I have come into the teenage years. I've only begun to feel like a teenager of past few months. The boys are starting to become more idiotic than usual and the girls are much more vain, and I've lost some friends, and if it continue like this, I have unfortunately only one in my class back, so yes it affects me. This has happened because a girl in my class (which me and my friend whos lef,t hates) she drink and she has already got one of our friends on it and is about to get another too, and now our friends is dropping us because we do not want to drink, and we will be perceived as outsiders. So you can say this framework pleased to think it is a typical teenage problem. Also yes, I have such crush on Frankie and Jared Leto ... ( im not sure all this is right, but I corrected it on google translate, and corrected that after I could we was wrong, Just hope its understanding to read) |
John St. John Shotgun Sinner Age: 31 Gender: Male Posts: 7145 | ^^ Do you not think many adults are like this? |
cherrryred Killjoy Age: 32 Gender: Female Posts: 6 | no, i don't actually. not nearly as much as teenagers. i have a lot of adujlt friends and i love being with them so much more than teenagers. at least they don't purposefully create drama because they're bored with they're lives. i'll admit there are some of those adults who forget they grew up, but i hate them too. they're worse than teenagers, |
Sid Salute You in Your Grave Age: 32 Gender: Female Posts: 2065 | I don't know, I think how your teenage years go depend on so many things, like your childhood or even adulthood to a certain degree. The only difference is when you're an adult you have experience behind you. As teenagers, we're still learning how to deal with different issues and problems and with usually because most of these problems are new to us, we can't make informed decisions and yeah, sometimes we screw up. I'm not saying as a group we're stupid and I think it's wrong to generalize a whole generation (I mean if you said all old people were incompetant, you'd be called agist) but I think the reason why we're so looked down upon by people is just because we're going through all these unpredictable ups and downs. My shrink told me your teenage years are the most important time of your life because you're 'indivualising', which is basically when you start to form your own opinions and ways of life other than your parents' or family. In this generation's case, we're growing up in a time when everything's being fast forwarded what with technology and stuff and as a group, we're doing things that would be normally seen as suited for older people, like booze culture in Britain or younger kids being sexually active. Every older generation is going to look at teenagers in their time and say 'it never used to be that way when I was growing up' and I'm sure we will when we're older. It's like in the 50's when kids stopped dressing like their parents and listening to their parents' music and became their own group of people. The word 'teenager' didn't even exist before then. But yeah, basically I think people's experiences are the main things that shape their teenage years rather than just their age. Obviously it has a factor to play in maturity and such but I think say, for example, a 13 year old who's had to deal with some shit in their lives or had to grow up quickly could be just as mature as an 18 year old who's had a relatively normal life. But yeah, it's just my opinion. Just thought I'd share with y'all. |
Darkromance Banned Age: - Gender: - Posts: 322 | yep. they tell you you can work at 14, but really, who's gonna hire a 14 year old? especially if you are a smaller girl who looks a bit younger. And then you aren't really free. You are but you aren't. Like we have alota free time, but we have little or no money to do things and make use of that time. Plus, it sucks even more if your parents won't buy you certain things, like a computer and CDs. It just gets a whole lot boring. Boring=depressing |
Ronnie Radke Killjoy Age: - Gender: - Posts: 40 | you know what i say? screw people. see, i hate almost everyone at my school. they think that wearing skinnies and eyeliner are considered freakish traits. but its me. and i sure as hell wont be changing just to satisfy they very people i spite. the people i dont hate? they accept me. and if i may say this- cheesy as it might be- you know the song, teenagers? 'they gonna clean up your looks, with all the lies in the books, to make a citizen out of you.' people tell try and change you because they say being like them is a good thing. because being yourself sometimes isnt acceptable in these times. dont change, hun. its the best way to be. and if youre saying that staying true to yourself is like letting the bad guy win, you are sorely mistaken. changing yourself to be like everyone else is letting the bad guys win. |
make some noise; Jazz Hands Age: 32 Gender: Female Posts: 271 | Darkromance: While I can acknowledge where you're coming from, [and I thought the same way when I was 14], saying those kind of things are the things that make our generation's lives harder isn't true. Our generation and the previous generation both have had a lot of life-altering problems, but not getting a computer and CDs are hardly on top. Drugs, pregnancy, alchohol, cutting, STDs and AIDs, these are all problems that our generation and the previous ones have experienced. You're pretty lucky to have a roof over your head, food in your mouth, etc. I know it sounds like I'm preaching at you/to you, but you need to understand that 'being bored' is much better than 'being in the streets'. Please don't take this as a personal attack, I'm just trying to explain a point to you. |
Thug Life. Bleeding on the Floor Age: 33 Gender: Male Posts: 1315 | I dont generally think its tough being a teenager. I mean techincally "Teenagers" only started popping up in the fifties. Before that being 13 - 20 meant you were still a kid. I think what I'm sorta throwing out there is "Teenager" is less about age but more about an ideology. |
make some noise; Jazz Hands Age: 32 Gender: Female Posts: 271 | ^ I agree completely. |
Just Steph... Motor Baby Age: 32 Gender: Female Posts: 909 | Death By Asylum: I'm the exact same. I can't walk past a group of teenagers without turning my ipod down so i can hear if they're about to chase me. I think they're as bad as wild animals in that they can be so unpredictable at times. Every time i feel like i know what somone is like, it turns out they're not. Maybe I'm just a bad judge of character, but one of the most recent revelations about someone shocked more than just me, so perhaps not. And yes, I think adults are the exact same. I see people i walk past in the street spot me and start to look suspicious, or worried, and i couldn't punch my way out of a paper bag. I think teenagers and adults have it just the same, but in different ways, but what annoys me about adults is that when you try and tell them what's wrong (in my experience), they tell you you're being a drama queen, attention seeking, ungrateful etc and that you can't be unhappy because you don't need to worry about the bills, looking after kids etc. No, perhaps not, but that doesn't mean we can't be dissatisfied with life and want to make it better. |
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