Teenagers

Is it really everything to be good looking? I mean, I understand that people’s opinions shouldn’t really matter. But, as much as it hurts, people’s views on myself get to me sometimes. I was told not to care about what others think of me, but in a way I think that’s like giving up. It’s like letting the bad guy win a way.

Becoming a teenager really has a lot of hard work with it. I thought it would easy. Besides the work at school, I thought my life would easier then ever. But, now it’s worse.

I just really want other people’s views on the whole thing. Like if anyone else is beginning to feel the pressure of being a teenager.

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I think teenagers these days are way to judgemental and steriotypical
every one in my school has a steriotype
and every one has their little clique, and no one steps out of that little clique
no one even tries to get to know other people anymore
they go by what they thinks they know
it's terribly annoying
but ignoring it has become increasingly easy
just don't let them get to you

My opinion is just to do what makes you happy.

If wearing a hideously ugly neon dress to your High School makes YOU, personally happy, then go for it. Screw the people that might make fun of you. Be who you want to be.

Thanks.
It's kind of comforting to know that others can help you.
Even if its online.
So, thank you for your opinions.

And I do agree with the stereotype/clique point.
Everyone these days seems to have to have one. =/

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I think teenagers these days are way to judgemental and steriotypical
every one in my school has a steriotype
and every one has their little clique, and no one steps out of that little clique
no one even tries to get to know other people anymore
they go by what they thinks they know
it's terribly annoying
but ignoring it has become increasingly easy
just don't let them get to you

agreed
if someone even thinks of doing something that doesn't fit in to their steryotype.........
i still remember how insane people went when i had pink in my outfit one day at school........i love black but i also like pink as well. apparently, you can't have it both ways
but i will wear both pink and black if i want. i say just do what you want if it makes you happy and always be yourself. if we should have one right, its to be ourselves without all these stupid social repercussions.

I totally agree with you and everyone here.
It seems no matter where you go, a stereotype must be given to you.

And being happy with yourself does work;
Which I'm working on now.
I'm taking one step at a time, and trying to do my best.
That goes for school, family, work, and friends.
It all does seem to work when you relax at look at how a small part of my life is good.

Like, I have food on my table: a bed to sleep in. Friends that have said they cared about me.

And then the luxuries: my computer, my iPod, and pay television. It's all worthwhile eventually, when you look on the bright side.

I think exactly the same you all are saying.

Ok, maybe is the best time of your life, but it's very hard too. We all know that, and I think that in the past, it wasn't so hard to be a teenager.

I must say, being a teenager by definition SUCKS!
Theres no other way to put it, its going to be hard, it's going to get confusing, people are going to turn on you and make your life a living hell.
And im being positive here.
No matter where you are or what you do there will be stereotypes and cliques. That's a given, and most people can't accept that and believe that somewhere out there, there is a place where all groups can be together and be friends...sorry to say but i've been to many schools/places and everywheres the same.
I honestly don't believe when people tell me these are the best years of my life, becuase the future to me seems much more fun and with a lot more freedom.
However, all teenagers have their own experiences to make these years special and all i can say is try to make the best of it.

o yes i agree with what some people are saying about the friends thing. i have had the same group of friends at my school since the fifth grade. but i have changed as a person and i have learned an extraordinary amount from mcr that have caused me to view them in a new light. I'm not really saying they are bad people, but not as good as ones that i could be surrounding myself with and they definitely have the whole problem of saying things for attention. I know they all have their own stuff going on, but there are much worse problems in the world than theirs. Needless to say I find myself hanging out with them more out of habit than desire. I doubt I will stay in touch with any of them when I switch schools next year.

My school isn't really as clique filled as some other high schools in my city, but anyways.
You get teased if your 'goth', fat, 'nerd', skinny, and yeah.
Teenagers (in my opinion) find an excuse to make someone else feel small to make them seem high and mighty because whoever it is they're putting down is too afraid/cant be fked to tell them to rack off.

Also, at my high school, if you don't swear, you're uncool.
If you don't follow the crowd, your a loser.
If you're good at a subject, your a nerd.
Its just part of growing up. Trying to fit in and all...

MurderOnBroadway:

I have a question: Do you think that social status between peers is necessary?
Is it helpful?
Can it be stopped? How?

I don't think it is necessary, but it makes people higher in social status feel good.
They are known, liked and respected with gives them some amount of comfort and acceptance.
However, people who are lower down are more likely to have self-esteem problems as they question themselves.
'Why am I not popular? Is there something wrong with me?' etc.

MurderOnBroadway:

I have a question: Do you think that social status between peers is necessary?
Is it helpful?
Can it be stopped? How?

I don't thinks its necessary. A lot of people that are "cool" or "popular" aren't the ones necessarily deserve the respect. I mean there definately are kids like that who are good kids but what about the "nerds" and people like that who are very smart and have done more respect and status but simply aren't "cool" enough?

srry to double post but I left some stuff out of last one.


Is it helpful?
Not really. For every kid who feels important and respected from it comes another kids who gets their self esteem lowered from it
Can it be stopped? How?
No I don't think so. I think the idea of "coolness" has been like stamped in people's heads and like lables, its just going to be a part of society people may not like.

I don't usually think if there is something wrong with me because I'm not popular. I know I'm not. And I don't make it a big deal. I think it's a little stupid when people start to question themselves about if there is something wrong with them. Although it may take some time to be comfortable with yourself.

I do agree with you though. People who are known to be higher then others in society is comforting for them. Although, I have never been in that position. For them to know they have people to do anything and everything for them is messed up.

It is some stupid and humiliating hierarchy created to make people feel bad.

You know, you shouldn't actually care what the others think of you...
Do you remember what Gerard Way said? 'Be yourself, don't take anyone's sh*t and never let them take you alive.'
This quote helped me a lot and i'm sure it will help you too....