Teenagers

somehow the phrase ''conform to nonconformity'' springs up in mind.
I think that happens a lot with the whole teenage thing, everyone's trying to be different and for some reason doing that by forming a group wearing ''different'' clothes that are all the same and liking ''different'' music that about a million other people like: MCR, for example.
Just a little random piece of mind there, no offence intended to anyone.

[quote="Vanya Hargreeves"
I think that happens a lot with the whole teenage thing, everyone's trying to be different and for some reason doing that by forming a group wearing ''different'' clothes that are all the same and liking ''different'' music that about a million other people like: MCR, for example.
Just a little random piece of mind there, no offence intended to anyone.[/quote]

i see what you mean. however, i try not to dress like everyone else. i try to have my own sense of style not following a certain stereotype. however, in my school, i am one of the very few that go and at least try to listen to other bands or try have an alternative style. most people in my school are clones of each other, and when they see me and my friends, we are called losers and emo kids. we are told to slit our wrists everyday [even if some of us dont] and get insults for the music we listen to on the bus and how we dress.

its quite unfair that a certain group of kids who dress differently than the clones are the targeted ones.

and Mindfuck i see what you mean. though everything is hard for middle schooled/high schooled girls, it can go both ways. Boys can start being pressured by groups of friends that they are virgins or whatever.

Mindfuck:

Why just teenage girls? As far as I'm concerned, teenagers of both sexes feel that kind of pressure....

very true. i didn't think about that. i totally agree. now that i think about it, guys do have a lot of pressure. its wrong with both sexes.

Yeah, it's hard being a teenager.

Then you become an adult and you realise how easy it was, despite all the typical angst about fitting in, how to dress, bullying, blah blah.

Seriously, I wish teenagers would stop taking themselves so seriously. It's all going to be over in a couple of years, enjoy it. In my experience, the people who thought they were king of the heap in school turned out to be complete losers who are still totally deluding themselves and thinking they're awesome, only now they have to date/party with a bunch of high schoolers to get that ego boost because people their own age have moved on and are getting on with life. Real life, that is. And in the real world, those idiots are nobodies.

I think life is hard at any stage of life, it's not just teenagers that get the raw end of the deal. When you're there, you dream about being a real grown-up when people will take you seriously, you have a job, your own house, you're set.
Then you graduate, get a job working for some demeaning idiot, making peanuts in order to make them rich, your bills are crippling, your family is forever nagging about 'when are you going to settle down/stop wearing dumb clothes/cover your tattoos/start a family/get a promotion' and you wish you were back in school where the most you had to deal with was taking pop quizzes and some moron making fun of you to their friends.

It's all relative, I guess.

But my advice to teenagers is this:
Enjoy it. Seriously. It's all you have left of your carefree childhood days, unless you are one of those idiots who never grows up and everybody looks down on because you're too busy STILL trying to prove you fit in with the 'right' crowd.
If people make fun of you, just rest assured that they're as insecure, frightened and anxious about how others perceive them, as you are. Ignore it. Once you graduate, all the cliques and barriers disappear, and suddenly those people will suffer amnesia and be convinced that you guys were BFFs all along.

For the fucking win! Couldn't have said it any better myself. Especially the bit about "suddenly those people will suffer amnesia and be convinced that you guys were BFFs all along" because that is the truth.

High school sucks. Always has, always will. Worry about yourself, make yourself happy, and you'll come out of it okay. Everyone's a little scarred, but it is a rite of passage.

I sure miss college though ... those were good times, and I rushed through it why?

I think being a teen is hard, you face challenges and struggles you didn't know about in your younger years. You take on more responsibilities, you experience physical and hormonal changes...everything can be sky high one moment, then come crashing down the next.

Girls feel the need to be made up and pretty, to be skinny, to like everything the popular girls like. Its hard to take if and when that person doesn't fit in to the "normal crowd"

Boys feel the need to be accpeted and prove their toughness to their friends. That may be why some guys are really sweet, but when they hang around their friends they become total jag-offs.

Both genders face problems, but then again both genders are capable of solving them too. The sooner people realize they should do what makes them happy, the sooner they will be happy...I sort of realized this too late. Can't think of too much else...♥

being a teen...oh gosh... i could on and on about how much I hate my life (i really do) but since i KNOW that everyone is going to post stuff like that, I'm gonna say what i love being about a teen...

1. I don't have to work
2. i can hit the mall anytime i want
3. i get yelled at by total strangers (don't ask how it's fun, it just is!)
4.you can commit all the crime you want, because when you turn 18 (at least in ohio) your record gets swiped clean!

Hell yes it's rough being a teenager! Most adults, when asked if they could go back in time to any period of time in their lives, always opt to return to high school. FUCK THAT; not this girl! Why the HELL would I want to relive all that bullshit all over again - fucking asshole peers, arguments with the folks over freedoms (or lack thereof) having to kill time in parks in the dead of winter due to lack of funds or i.d., intense feelings of inadequacy. No way, if I'm going back to anything, it's my early twenties. I am 40 years old and I still remember 15 vividly - I think that's why kids like to talk to me. I don't talk down to them, because I know.

For me it's confusing.. I mean you don't know what to do with your life ( Even if i think you don't really need to know yet ) and right now everything I do feels like a waste , pointless...
And it's a lot of other hard things. Somethings are great. But yes, it's hard..

sciencefreak897:

4.you can commit all the crime you want, because when you turn 18 (at least in ohio) your record gets swiped clean!

Oh Boy.

Arn't you just the shining example of a teenager these days?

Aren't I? but hey, I gotta get my kicks in when I still can! If I do any time after I'm 18, I'll have no chanch of getting a job!

^ It also depends on where you live as to whether your criminal history is available to others after you turn 18. Some places, you have a 'sealed record', which means people know you did something but aren't allowed to find out what it was (which means you might have got a minor charge for something like drug possession, but an employer might think 'Oh God they could have committed an armed robbery'), and other places it's freely available to others after you turn 18.

And Sciencefreak, you're starting to sound like a real troll. One minute your dad is telling you to save yourself for marriage and telling you that porn is wrong, the next he supposedly held a gun to your head.

girls have way more pressure i think because boys r always up 4 it and dont have 2 many feeling where else girls do and feel as if they have to do it

I think the whole being a "teenager" is way overrated. Since we're in our adolescent stage, psychologically, we're supposed to be a bit unstable, but I think we're still too dramatic about it. Teenagers nowadays are crying because the "hate" their lives and all that ridiculous crap. It's absurd. Sure, some of us have it that hard, but ever since it's been the "in thing" for us to be all dark and brooding, it's going overboard and overrated. Some of my teenaged friends don't have homes or parents and they live on the streets and they still try to keep cheerful. But then there's the teenagers who are screaming in hysterics about how they hate their life because people look at them differently or "don't understand how hard it is to be a teenager." Honestly, I think they should just get a life because their not fooling anyone. Being a teenager is one of the easiest stages in life and the most fun. Get a job, dress weird if you want to, get to college, go dating, enjoy being home with mom and dad, watch some cartoons, there's always something to do. But don't start thinking that the life of a teenager is hard and pressured because it's only the teenager making it that way.

i go to an all girls private school, it's horrible, your status in school is based on what base you've gone to, people went all the way when they were thirteen just to look cool and if you don't want to get absolutly pissed then tou might as well say good bye to any kind on popularity you have, half our year has done cannabis or marojana and the rest smoke and nearly everyone you ask self harms and the bullying is so high. I think teenagers have a hard time just because of all this peer pressure, i don't like drinking (more cos i hate the taste), i don't want to smoke (cos my unlce died from it) and i'm not going to cange no matter how much people pressure me to

Cigarettes And Suicide:

And Sciencefreak, you're starting to sound like a real troll. One minute your dad is telling you to save yourself for marriage and telling you that porn is wrong, the next he supposedly held a gun to your head.

Couldnt agree more.
How on earth can you get your kicks by "committing crime" when most of your views are so right wing. I am seriously confused and would like you to explain yourself.

Thanks.


Who's that trip-trapping over my bridge.

I woud say that it is one of the hardest things I have ever done. IN your teens you are forced to make decisions that will affect the rest of your life, and I personally don't think we are ready. At 13, I made a decision that will prevent me from going to Art College. At 13, I hadn't even thought about any college. At 15, I made a decision that will determine what uni I can go to. Being a teenager is very hard. You have hormones running through your body like there is no tomorrow, you have to put up with your body changing in ways that you don't like, you're stuck between being an adult, and being a kid. It doesn't get better as soon as you turn 20, but it peaks if you like in your teens.

ChipmunkOnKetamine:

I woud say that it is one of the hardest things I have ever done. IN your teens you are forced to make decisions that will affect the rest of your life, and I personally don't think we are ready. At 13, I made a decision that will prevent me from going to Art College. At 13, I hadn't even thought about any college. At 15, I made a decision that will determine what uni I can go to. Being a teenager is very hard. You have hormones running through your body like there is no tomorrow, you have to put up with your body changing in ways that you don't like, you're stuck between being an adult, and being a kid. It doesn't get better as soon as you turn 20, but it peaks if you like in your teens.

But the choices you make as a teen can easily be reversed. No choices you make at 13 are final.
What stopped you going to art college? Not taking art as a subject in school? So what... pick it up once you leave school, do college or night classes and then get into art college. If it's something different then my apologies, I just didnt want you to think you had missed out on chances because of decisions you made... you can achieve anything you want to.

Sure, being a teenager is tough. But being an adult in my opinion is tougher.