Student/Teacher Relationships

hmm idk legal age or not... love is love?

hmm idk legal age or not... love is love?

love is love. but sometimes those teachers are really messed up...

I think its totally disgusting, but if they are legally aloud to date, then, I guess it's really none of my business.
My English teacher was telling us around the time when we where learning about speech's and how to look and present yourself etc. and he was talking about all the v-necks that you see girls wearing and how a lot of the male teachers won't say anything to the girls about it etc. because they like it or whatever.... it was really sick.
To be honest, its creepy really. All the rumors and everything that surround it, it makes you uncomfortable to ask that teacher a question when you need help with something homework related. It can mess up a lot of things. And sure love is love, but, no offense, I would not feel comfortable knowing that my math teacher or who ever got some girl who was my age pregnant. One, the age difference. And though it would be none of my business, I would just feel awkward around that teacher.

Wow.

Well if the age difference is really big there could be a problem.

But I really think this shouldn't affect this teachers job. It's their lives. Can't they fuck who they wanna?

turophile:

I think its totally disgusting, but if they are legally aloud to date, then, I guess it's really none of my business.
My English teacher was telling us around the time when we where learning about speech's and how to look and present yourself etc. and he was talking about all the v-necks that you see girls wearing and how a lot of the male teachers won't say anything to the girls about it etc. because they like it or whatever.... it was really sick.
To be honest, its creepy really. All the rumors and everything that surround it, it makes you uncomfortable to ask that teacher a question when you need help with something homework related. It can mess up a lot of things. And sure love is love, but, no offense, I would not feel comfortable knowing that my math teacher or who ever got some girl who was my age pregnant. One, the age difference. And though it would be none of my business, I would just feel awkward around that teacher.

In 99.9999% of cases i totally agree with you, all im saying is that i think its hard to judge because i dont really kno the situation and im sure in some cases people are in love.... and it doesnt matter what age, teacher, student, whatever. but i do agree you in the awkwardness of it

turophile:

I think its totally disgusting, but if they are legally aloud to date, then, I guess it's really none of my business.
My English teacher was telling us around the time when we where learning about speech's and how to look and present yourself etc. and he was talking about all the v-necks that you see girls wearing and how a lot of the male teachers won't say anything to the girls about it etc. because they like it or whatever.... it was really sick.
To be honest, its creepy really. All the rumors and everything that surround it, it makes you uncomfortable to ask that teacher a question when you need help with something homework related. It can mess up a lot of things. And sure love is love, but, no offense, I would not feel comfortable knowing that my math teacher or who ever got some girl who was my age pregnant. One, the age difference. And though it would be none of my business, I would just feel awkward around that teacher.

In 99.9999% of cases i totally agree with you, all im saying is that i think its hard to judge because i dont really kno the situation and im sure in some cases people are in love.... and it doesnt matter what age, teacher, student, whatever. but i do agree you in the awkwardness of it

I think that it's wrong in the first place, a teacher shouldn't be putting their personal and business life's together. A teacher should not be having a relationship with their student whether their underage or not.

If the student is over 18 (which I think is the age of consent for teachers and cops, and stuff), and the teacher doesn't teach that student, then sure go ahead. I think if you do teach the student, then it is hard to keep school and home seperate, and it may become awkward.

xhead1st4halos94x:

im sure in some cases people are in love.... and it doesnt matter what age, teacher, student, whatever.

An adult can truly be in love with a five year old but that doesn't make it okay. I think in most of these situations the teacher is taking advantage of the student.
There was a teacher at my school who was having sex with one of his student. The student was 17 at the time and the teacher was over 40. I think that is disgusting, and totally inappropriate.
On the other hand I know an 18 year old senior who dates her student teacher. (who is about 22) It really depends on the situation and exactly how old the people involved are.

If you like some one, you like some one. You can't change how your feel.

As long as both student and teacher want it then I believe it's ok.

Rainbow_Vampire:

If you like some one, you like some one. You can't change how your feel.

As long as both student and teacher want it then I believe it's ok.

But what if it's a 40 year old man and a toddler? Or a middle-schooler? A case very similar just happened in my home town. You can't honestly believe that an 8 year old girl will know what she wants and who she wants to sleep with - especially since she isn't even physically ready, (never mind mentally) to have sex.

i think in most of the cases its extremely disgusting, but i think if the student as old enough to know what they are doing, and are not teached by the teacher than its their business. but when its teachers taking advantage of younder students who are not fully aware of what they are doing and are definately not mentally or physically ready it is absolutely disgusting. fi the student is 18 its their business. but i personally would not want to be taught by that teacher or have an aphiliation with them, it would freak me out.

I don't think that laws should get into other peoples love, unless it's rape.

sciencefreak897:

I don't think that laws should get into other peoples love, unless it's rape.

What about incest, pedophilia, bestiality? Are those okay because it's 'love'?
There are laws for a reason, not necessarily to interfere, but to protect students/teachers from the backlash of such a relationship. It's the same as sleeping with your boss. It complicates the workplace and can be unfair to other employees/students. A teacher would probably show favoritism for the student he/she is in a relationship with and that is unfair to all the other students.

As teachers, we have a duty of care for our pupils.
By entering into relationships with students that trust is broken, regardless of age or whatever.
Teachers are classed as "loco parentis"... your parents in school... therefore an sexual relationship is against the ethos of being a teacher.

If the pupil has left school and they meet up with a teacher as an adult, the situation is different but while the student is at school it is ethically and morally wrong.

Teachers are generally trusted in a school, and so I think it's worse than if the relationship is between a student and say, any other adult. They could easily abuse that trust, and rape or something like wouldn't be far-fetched at all.

Tallulah; Schechter:

If the pupil has left school and they meet up with a teacher as an adult, the situation is different but while the student is at school it is ethically and morally wrong.

True, but that's not to say that outside of school, anything goes.
I think the point is, it's a teacher and a student. There was a situation at a school in my city where a teacher took a student (this was during school hours) and they went two blocks down and... yeah. Whether they're in school, out of school, even if it's in summer-- I don't think it's right.

that was the point i was making. As adults it is a different ball game, but while the student is still at school it is a betrayal of a teacher's duty of care. It is the first thing that you are taught during teacher training. As a teacher myself, who is passionate about my profession, i feel very strongly that teachers should never abuse the trust that is automatically awarded to them.

Tallulah; Schechter:

that was the point i was making. As adults it is a different ball game, but while the student is still at school it is a betrayal of a teacher's duty of care. It is the first thing that you are taught during teacher training. As a teacher myself, who is passionate about my profession, i feel very strongly that teachers should never abuse the trust that is automatically awarded to them.

Now, I definately agree with the fact that if the student is still a student, then it's a no go. But can you just elaborate on what you mean by abuse of trust and duty of care? I'm not trying to pick apart your agrument, I just never really felt I particularly trusted my teachers other than for marking my work. I always saw it as we come in, they teach, we leave and that was it.