Cheating

I'm being cheated on right now. &&& shew told me. &&& I don't care, either. You see I'm bi. My gf got a bf....and is still dating me.
My gf claims that that means I'm dating her bf too.
I've never met him.

^^
messed? or what?

Ahhh.
Im like...
i cant say its wrong >_<
because.
Alright, ive known my current boyfriend sinse March, and we immeadiately became close.
When he got a girlfriend, i was protecctive. but not overly so, because theyd known eachother for years.
When she got pregnant i stood by them and encouraged them to go either way.
thats it was their choise to keep it or not.
Then i started to like him more than a friend. so i told him >_<
and he said he felt the same.
eventually it turned into something >_<
and now, after a very long, very complicated journey, he and hid girlfriend are just friends, and im going out with him.


i think if its done with intent to hurt the other person, its wrong.

Cheaters are awful. I've been cheated on more than once by guys who claimed to love me. It's a cowardly thing to do. I say this because if you cheat it basically says you aren't mentally strong enough to do the honorable thing and brek up with the person. It's always a hurtful, disrespectful thing to do.

Summer Shudder.:

Cheaters are awful. I've been cheated on more than once by guys who claimed to love me. It's a cowardly thing to do. I say this because if you cheat it basically says you aren't mentally strong enough to do the honorable thing and brek up with the person. It's always a hurtful, disrespectful thing to do.

Thats very true. I never ever thought I would cheat on a boyfriend, then two years ago, I found myself in love with another guy. He felt the same. I had fallen out of love with my boyfriend at the time, but I was too weak to admit it, and I was too afraid to leave him alone, especially because we lived together and he had moved over from ireland to be with me, even though I knew cheating on him was so wrong, it felt like my only option at the time.

After about a month, I broke up with the guy who was my boyfriend at the time, i never told him that i had cheated on him, but we had definatly grown apart so he took that as the reason why, I was at university and with him being five years older than me I felt that he held me back from doing what i wanted to do. He was very upset, but I was not. I was happy for the first time ever, and I got to experience what real love was for the first time.

The guy I fell in love with, I now live with, its our two year "going out" anneversary on halloween and I couldnt be more happy. I feel like making such a big mistake has been a valuable life lesson, cheating is wrong, and not I believe i am strong enough to never ever go there again.

If i ever realised I was not in love with my boyfriend, I feel I could deal with it in an appropriate way this time, not that im planning on it happening mind!

i don't agree with cheating at all. my ex bf cheated on me with my best friend, before he did that he said he loved me and kept telling me he did,but if you love someone as much as you say you do then why cheat. it hurts more than anything i've experienced and its not fun at all.

The other day, I cheated in my maths test and came third. I wrote the formulas for 'sin, tan and cos' on my hand. But when it comes to boyfriends and girlfriends, cheating on one another is just plain mean.

the newyork lights.:

Cheaters are awful. I've been cheated on more than once by guys who claimed to love me. It's a cowardly thing to do. I say this because if you cheat it basically says you aren't mentally strong enough to do the honorable thing and brek up with the person. It's always a hurtful, disrespectful thing to do.

I agree with you, completely.
I've been cheated on before, and it was the worst feeling in the world to have to be told by someone that my boyfriend had screwed around with some other girl.
He actually went so low as to hook-up with one of my friends, telling her that we weren't together, anymore.
I dated him for a little over a year, and he was messing around for probably most of that time (from what I've heard since then). My relationship with him has totally destroyed my trust in men. I haven't been in a relationship since then. I'm too afraid.
My opinion: cheating is the lowest of the low. If you don't want to be with someone, break up with them. It would hurt much less in the end.

Cheating is so wrong once a cheater always a cheater...I remember I was dating this guy we were gonna go out on our first date after I came home..
And the fucked up part after I dumped him cause he was an asshole to me His friend told me he's been cheating on me the entire time with his long time girlfriend Samantha Guys who cheat deserve to have their balls cut off.And never use it again.I sware men are such jerks some men are..
He caught himself in a lie bastard.

Cheating is crude, I agree, yet I don't agree with the statement ' Once a cheater, always a cheater.'

There's more to a person, than a robotic continous mind. People calculate their actions and begin to contemplate on how they yearn to live the rest of their life; Whether it's destorying it or actually doing something with their life. Majority keep it in mind and may do it again; but it's not the only focused thought they continue to withhold.

I agree with that state ment because people always ask for that second chance and you dont wanna give it to them cause they'll just do it again and again...That was the first time I got played by a guy like that.

He was lucky I wasnt around when I found out cause I would've decked him in the face.

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Modern Swinger:

i don't agree with cheating at all. my ex bf cheated on me with my best friend, before he did that he said he loved me and kept telling me he did,but if you love someone as much as you say you do then why cheat. it hurts more than anything i've experienced and its not fun at all.

And its guys like that, that makes it so damn hard for nice guys like me. They ruin girls perception of guys and then we have no chance with the nice girls...

Misread:

Modern Swinger:

i don't agree with cheating at all. my ex bf cheated on me with my best friend, before he did that he said he loved me and kept telling me he did,but if you love someone as much as you say you do then why cheat. it hurts more than anything i've experienced and its not fun at all.

And its guys like that, that makes it so damn hard for nice guys like me. They ruin girls perception of guys and then we have no chance with the nice girls...

ya it does, i've met some nice guys after i was cheated on but it's so hard to trust guys after that

MyOwnImmortality:

Cheating is crude, I agree, yet I don't agree with the statement ' Once a cheater, always a cheater.'

THANK YOU!!
that's EXACTLY what I was going to say.
I guess you could say i cheated once but it was on a guy that lived across the US and i'd never met him
that doesn't really count, right?
internet relationships don't count.
unless you find some way to meet them.

I'm against cheating, primarily because my father left my mother and i experianced the effects of it and saw the effect it has on the people around you. i don't mind people seeing more than one person as long as the other half knows about it. I'm not in to that myself, i wouldn't feel secure or loved, nor would i feel respected or wanted or satisfactory.

Wouldn't this belong in the relationships thread?

i chetad. dont ever do it . it makes you feel dirty and you feel sick if you keep it to yourslef unless you dont have a hart

bloodredruby69:

What effects might cheating have on a persons next relationship?

Even though I think I've said this before, I was cheated on almost two years ago and I haven't had a serious relationship since.
The experience has dramatically affected my trust in men.