Pre-Marital Sex
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Person0001 Always Born a Crime Age: 43 Gender: Female Posts: 5099 | Ash-Peters:No, it's not superficial - it's actually a real risk! Not being sexually compatible can be fatal in a relationship - I suppose there are always expensive seminars in order to learn how to be sexually compatible, but wouldn't it be better not to waste your money? I wonder if the compromise would be to not sleep together until you intend to marry? |
Ash-Peters Killjoy Age: 30 Gender: Female Posts: 47 | well yes but I didn't want people attacking me saying "why should that stuff be important to you, wouldn't it matter more how emotionally compatible you are in a relationship and that you loved them" etc etc |
demon dean Always Born a Crime Age: - Gender: Female Posts: 5592 | i have nothing against pre-marital sex. i think there should be a line drawn between a couple who loves eachother and wants to take their relationship to the next level, and simple "no strings attatched" hookups. hookups. i think the morally correct way would to share something that special with your boyfriend/girlfriend, but then again, you could care about someone, but they not care for you as much, but still want you in a sexual manner. i think hookups can be compared somewhat to overeating: you enjoy it for the time being, but then you feel a little nauseous afterward, and wonder why you even did that in the first place. |
famouslastwordsxoxo Killjoy Age: 30 Gender: Female Posts: 8 | I think it's okay as long as you really love the person and you care about each other and you use protection. |
TheSharpestLife Killjoy Age: 29 Gender: Female Posts: 26 | I don't see whats wrong with sex before marriage. Some people don't even believe in getting married. As long as the person is mature enough to and they use some kind of contraception (unless the girl wants to get pregnant or something). However, if they're doing it only because it's "the cool" thing to do, then that's stupid and something they will regret when they're older. Also - marriage is not permanent. A relationship where the two people don't get married could last longer, then one where they do get married. Getting married doesn't mean that you're going to be with that person for the rest of your life. It's meant to mean that, but it doesn't. I don't have a religon, so nothing stops me from having pre-marital sex. |
Lights Salute You in Your Grave Age: 31 Gender: Female Posts: 2205 | I have quite liberal views, which could really get me in trouble on this topic. Haha. But in all seriousness, I think as humans, we all share an animalistic sex-drive. What's so wrong with satisfying it? |
Go fuck yourself Devil's Got Your Number Age: 30 Gender: Female Posts: 37823 | In Christianity. saving yourself till marriage didn't get added in till later, after the Bible was supposedly no longer being written. I believe if you love someone really you should be with them in whatever way you want as long as you both are consenting. |
Wandering_Soul Jazz Hands Age: 31 Gender: Male Posts: 303 | If you love each other, are safe about it, and both consent then there is no problem at all in my book. The real controversy over this issue usually ties into religious views, and many religions added in the pre-marital sex ban. Just some food for thought |
Sexy Mama Banned Age: 30 Gender: Female Posts: 48 | i have sex so i think its ok |
greatestemokiduknow Killjoy Age: 29 Gender: Male Posts: 65 | I honestly have no problem with pre-marital sex. If two people are in love and truly in love then why not do what you want to do. I dont know if thats right way to have logic but its what I believe |
fabulous killjoy. Moderator Age: 31 Gender: Female Posts: 46256 | sexibitch:Go read the rules of this forum before you decide to post again. It's a rule to contribute to the threads, not just say "hey, i do this it's alright to me!". You've been warned more than once now to add things to discussion, not just little one sentenced things. |
Harlequin Hearted Killjoy Age: 30 Gender: Female Posts: 7 | I don't particularly think premarital sex is "good", but I don't think it's exactly "bad" either. It's the decision of the two people in the relationship. If they think they care about each other enough, and are ready to take that next step, then that's their decision. I'd advise the female (if there is one) to use birth control though, as to not get pregnant. As for my religion, I'm a non-practicing Roman Catholic, and the religion is very against the practice of sex before marriage. Also, if you end up pregnant with the person because of it, then you're supposedly committing a mortal sin, but that's slightly off topic, so I won't go on further with it. Personally, I think that that's a load of bull. (Not to offend anyone who thinks otherwise) Next topic: Society. It seems like society, or the part of society I'm around, looks down on premarital sex for anyone under age 17. So if two 15 year olds are having sex, everyone will think bad about them. They may not say it, but they'll think it. Sex itself just seems to have bad connotations about it for some strange reason, unless you're over 17, then no one seems to care anymore. As for general premarital sex, it seems to be becoming a more and more accepted thing to do. There's some people who have sex with their significant other after knowing them for about a week, and no one ever seems to mind. Overall, I'd say I'm okay with it. |
Mindfuck Always Born a Crime Age: - Gender: Female Posts: 5614 | Harlequin Hearted:Well, in some parts of the world it's illegal for people under 17 to have sex. So perhaps that's why. |
Harlequin Hearted Killjoy Age: 30 Gender: Female Posts: 7 | Mindfuck: ...True. I kind of forgot about that. I think the exact legal age around where I am is 18, but you're still right. I mainly just made that point because a lot of things, along with sex, are more accepted once you're 17 (drinking, smoking, etc.) around here. But I'm not going to expand on that, because I don't want to get banned from the topic or anything for straying off topic. But yes, I do see your point. |
mostly human Always Born a Crime Age: - Gender: Female Posts: 5295 | I guess it probably comes down to how serious the couple are about their relationship.If it were a bunch of kids doing it because "it's what everyone's doing" then no I guess that would be quite irresponsible for them.But if the couple is mature enough and are truly ready to give themselves to oneanother, then why not?.Sex afterall, is the most intimate form of showing someone you love them, even if sometimes it's used to gain momentary pleasure. |
thank fsm. In The Murder Scene Age: 36 Gender: Female Posts: 20564 | Harlequin Hearted: I'm impressed that a user with only 7 posts is concerned with staying on-topic, really, but don't worry that much - you can touch on tangents here and there in these threads, just use your better judgment to keep it from getting out of hand. |
Cigarettes And Suicide Bleeding on the Floor Age: 37 Gender: Female Posts: 1725 | Joker: So, what about a pair of adults who are NOT romantically involved, let alone married, who have consensual, no-strings-attached sex? Technically that's still 'pre-marital'. Is *that* bad? As you say, sometimes sex has little to do with an expression of emotional intimacy, and a lot more to do with 'momentary gaining of pleasure'. Thoughts? |
thank fsm. In The Murder Scene Age: 36 Gender: Female Posts: 20564 | That's tricky territory. I believe it's fine to have a sex life even without a relationship - AS LONG AS safety is top priority. But so, so many people balk at the idea. Fewer than before, but casual sex is still sort of taboo for many. |
mostly human Always Born a Crime Age: - Gender: Female Posts: 5295 | Cigarettes And Suicide: Ah, thing is I was aiming it at ~teens~ rather than adults, so I sort of overlooked that. I don't think it's a bad thing when two consenting adults do have casual sex actually.As merlin said, as long as they're doing it safely ( and even if they're not) it's up to them, since they're at an age where they should be able to decide for themselves what is right and wrong. |
Lights Salute You in Your Grave Age: 31 Gender: Female Posts: 2205 | Just to maybe add another little something into the discussion, despite what I already said... Pre-teens and teens are driven by impulsive choices because the part of the brain that controls those is not fully developed yet. So in all honesty, even though I am only 17 and am in a monogomous relationship that involves sex with my boyfriend, science proves that at times we are completely incapable as adolescents to think everything through. |
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