Pre-Marital Sex
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| apple. Always Born a Crime  Age: 30 Gender: Female Posts: 5372 | mrsholyfro: |
| druscilla. Bleeding on the Floor  Age: 36 Gender: Female Posts: 1671 | Cigarettes And Suicide: I'm still a virgin and will be for a few more weeks, but I remember the first few times I was intimate with my fiance it didn't live up to my daydreams at all. It took awhile to get used to it and to realize that it wasn't going to be perfect. I was slightly upset that things weren't exactly the way they were in my mind. I'm so glad I'm not going to have to worry about that on my honeymoon. You have enough to deal with when you first get married; why have the added problem of discovering that sex isn't what you expected. |
| Stripey-Stripes. Motor Baby  Age: 34 Gender: Female Posts: 804 | I think that pre-marital sex is going to happen, religious beliefs or not. I have several friends who took "virginity pleadges" at church, and within a year, they had both had sex with two different people. i believe that if your safe, and responsible about it, and the other person isn't, you know, 12, then I don;t see what the problem is. I personally think that waiting uncomplicates the entire problem. No worries. It's all with what your comfortable with. |
| Xfriday_im_in_loveX Killjoy  Age: 30 Gender: Female Posts: 51 | i dont understand even the point of marraige. i havent believed in it for years and honestly, a ring on your finger and a binch of paperwork doesnt mean youre in love. it just makes the break up alot messier |
| addictedto_mychem Joining The Black Parade Age: 35 Gender: Female Posts: 184 | I personally don't see anything wrong with it. I mean, when you reach a certain age 17, 18 you enter more serious relationships and usually involve sex. But I think you should only do it if like many of you said, both people are mature enough and ready. And obviously love and care about eachother. |
| EMO_TEDDY Jazz Hands  Age: 34 Gender: Male Posts: 380 | personaly i dont mind it as long as the decison is from both partners and they both agree then its fine however personally i respect girl who keep there virginity till they are 16 at least |
| Silverstein Bleeding on the Floor  Age: 30 Gender: Male Posts: 1248 | It's so wrong. Of course, I was raised that way, but people who want to have premarital sex are just a bunch of horny perverts. If two people really love each other, they can wait till they're married. |
| chloeBAM Fabulous Killjoy Age: 32 Gender: Female Posts: 101 | i think it's ok as long as both parties are mature and both ready, definately not when one is putting pressure on the other to do it. If they're both careful and neither will regret it, I think it's ok. Although, personally, I'd rather wait, although not necessarily until marriage, until I am 100% sure I am in love with the person it's with. |
| vampires_hurt_me Fabulous Killjoy Age: 31 Gender: Male Posts: 103 | MyChemicalDeath: I don't think it's fair to say that they're "horny perverts." To a point, the idea of marriage being tied to sex is kind of ridiculous; if two people truly care about each other and want to express their love in a physical way, they shouldn't be bound by some arbitrary ceremony, a ring, and some paperwork. Don't get me wrong; marriage is a truly beautiful thing, I think that the idea of people who are willing to commit themselves to each other for life is great. I just find it ridiculous that certain ways of expressing your love for each other should be held off until you perform a certain ceremony. |
| xXDrop.The.DaggerXx Killjoy  Age: 34 Gender: Female Posts: 71 | I don't think it's fair to say that they're "horny perverts." To a point, the idea of marriage being tied to sex is kind of ridiculous; if two people truly care about each other and want to express their love in a physical way, they shouldn't be bound by some arbitrary ceremony, a ring, and some paperwork. Don't get me wrong; marriage is a truly beautiful thing, I think that the idea of people who are willing to commit themselves to each other for life is great. I just find it ridiculous that certain ways of expressing your love for each other should be held off until you perform a certain ceremony.[/quote] I agree with you. It's not fair to say anyone who has sex before marriage is a horny pervert. Waiting until after marriage to have sex is a purely personal choice, and often based on your belief system. I'm pagan, and I've also been taught that I don't have to wait until I'm married to have sex, and I haven't. But I've always been very careful and hold very high standards as to who I'm willing to do it with. I don't think I'm a horny pervert. You're free to choose to wait, and no one can tell you you're a prude just because you make that choice. So, likewise, you shouldn't call someone a pervert just because you don't agree. |
| yoey962 Bleeding on the Floor  Age: 33 Gender: Female Posts: 1262 | i think pre-marital sex also depends on the hormonal make up of a person as well. a couple could be deeply in love, yet have no interest in sex as a form of showing their love. another couple might be in love as well but feel that showing that love physically is a very important part of their relationship, and would therefore be far more likely to have sex before they were married, compared to the first couple. if a person is intersted in sex and has a strong curiosity about it they are much more likely to experiment before marrige. |
| DegenerateHippie Killjoy Age: 32 Gender: Female Posts: 32 | x-crimsonregret-x: Not a good idea.... even though a person might feel ready, you have to think about the people around them. parents find out, escpecialy ones that are really attune to their kids life, and theyre REALLY pissed off. it's the whole ordeal now, and the girl cant see or speak to the boy, or vice versa. and lives get messed up (rarely ruined beyond fixing..) and relationships get torn limb from limb. i speak from personal experience, those of you who are a bit skeptical. this might not always be the case, and i know that. but most times, parents will react this way. |
| DegenerateHippie Killjoy Age: 32 Gender: Female Posts: 32 | MyChemicalDeath: true, but some people dont want to wait. and, if they really do love each other, then of course their relationship wont be ruined by it, 'cause some will say that if you do have sex before marriage, then the relationship will fall apart. I |
| Cigarettes And Suicide Bleeding on the Floor  Age: 37 Gender: Female Posts: 1725 | DegenerateHippie: The issue isn't kids having sex, it's people who aren't married having sex. These couples could be in their 20's or 30's for all you know. It's a hypothetical situation. Sure, there may be some parents who find out and wig out when they know their kid's had sex, but I would hope that those parents are few and far between. They have to realise that at some point their children are going to grow up and make their own decisions, whether the parent approves or not. Of course, that would depend a lot too on how old you are - when my mum caught me doing it at almost-16, she freaked, but knew that there was nothing she could do to change the fact that it had already happened, and therefore doing something dumb like banning us from seeing each other would accomplish nothing. However, if I'd been, say, 13 or 14, it would have been a much different story. And what about the people who are 'doing it' for the first time at 17 or 18? That's still pre-marital sex, but they are old enough to make their own decisions without their parents interfering. ...and then of course, there are the vast majority of parents who never have an inkling of what their kids are getting up to, whether it be because the parents are far too busy with their own stuff, naive enough to believe that their kids will do as they're told without questioning it, or the kids are smart enough to be careful and not be found out until they're ready to let everyone know. |
| Jayohen Fabulous Killjoy  Age: 30 Gender: Female Posts: 121 | Well.. Okay, this is just my opinion, I think that its imoral, and wrong for a couple to get have sex before marriage. If they really love eachother, and are really ready, then they should also be ready for commitment to eachother, and marriage. If they truely love eachother, they would get married first. |
| druscilla. Bleeding on the Floor Age: 36 Gender: Female Posts: 1671 | blackrosequeen: What if they're gay and can never get married? Or what if they can't afford to be married for a long time? And what if they're engaged? Obviously they really do love each other and have made a commitment to each other. Why does that commitment have to be marriage? I'm having sex before I'm married, but it doesn't make me love my fiance any less. |
| idk. my bff jill? Demolition Lover  Age: 29 Gender: Female Posts: 18372 | I'm Christian,so I'm not supposed to have sex before marriage,but I personally don't agree with that. Whatever floats your boat is fine with me. I personally wouldn't have sex until I was engaged,about to be engaged,or married. |
| Demonic. Motor Baby  Age: - Gender: Female Posts: 788 | MyChemicalDeath: I sort of agree, but why are they horny perverts? A couple may be in love, and maybe that's just how they express their love for each other...through sex. And even if a couple is in love, marriage is a big decision, and they might not be 100% ready for a lifetime commitment. What about engaged couples? |
| druscilla. Bleeding on the Floor Age: 36 Gender: Female Posts: 1671 | MyChemicalDeath: That's such an ignorant statement. I'm a horny pervert. That's why I masturbate. But I'm a virgin and the only person I'm ever going to have sex with is my wife, though we will have sex before we're married. I'm engaged right now. I see no problem in premarital sex and I definitely don't see a problem with people who are engaged having sex. It's a natural act. Why deny nature? |
| shitthatwascyanide Salute You in Your Grave  Age: 30 Gender: Female Posts: 3529 | druscilla; in rags: just thought i'd point out that in massachusetts (USA) gay people can get married. |
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